"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Answer Her Innevitable Question
- Thread starter Freddy1
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Doggystyle
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If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Doggystyle said:
I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
ADifferentKindofDJ
Don Juan
What if you just met her? I had a situation where a girl asks for my age and then she sorta reel off when I told her the truth.flexion_ said:
Sound advice. Thank you! (Yeah I never really like lieing. It makes me feel bad.)flexion_ said:
I personally dont care what her age is as long as she's 18+ and looks good. :yes:rocky_mtn said:
I like your experience story. Guys have to becareful when a girl ask him to guess her age. If you get it wrong (by stating she looks older that her age instead of younger) she'll have a harry fit over it (you guys know how they could be sometimes):kick: .
Man, I just don't get why you guys make such an issue of the age thing. Like another poster said, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
A younger chick is going to look UP to you by default because society always teaches us to respect our elders. Quite a few of them will even be intimidated by the fact you are older. So you already have that going for you. The problem most guys have is that they go and get all paranoid about how she's gonna react, which blows them out of the water before they ever even have a chance.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again.....make HER feel like she has to qualify herself as being MATURE enough to be with YOU, not the other way around.
PLAY IT UP. Tell her you're worried about getting arrested for talking to her. Ask her what year she graduated high school (with a worried look on your face). Keep reminding her of it even after you know she is attracted to you. If you let a chick put you on the defensive you've LOST. Beat her to the punch in the beginning and it sets the tome for the relationship. I can directly attribute this attitude to at least a couple of my successes with women in the recent past.
YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
He's a bud, but damn he was making it difficult. There's no getting rid of him, basically a good dude, the chick's upstairs roommate, and a drinking buddy, but geeezzzz takes a sh!t load of self confidence to keep it going with young HB8.5, I think I did alright and she wasn't to phased.
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realsmoothie
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With me, the girl usually pops the question after they've gotten to know me a bit through conversation. Then it goes something like this:
girl: "how old ARE you, anyhow?" (smirking)
me: "31"
girl: "no WAY! That's cool"
(and at this point you can see she is suddenly wondering just how much experience you have).
And her age matters little... seems to me like 19 year olds find older guys a bit of a novelty. Of course, 19 year old girls are clinically insane and damned dangerous...
NOTE: For a while, I made the mistake of playing a little game. When she asked for my age, I'd ask her to guess. That made them uncomfortable, and I think it also made me look like I was wanting some sort of validation as seeming "young for my age".
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.