She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Doggystyle said:say "i am 36"
If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What if you just met her? I had a situation where a girl asks for my age and then she sorta reel off when I told her the truth.flexion_ said:There is no reason to lie. Just tell her your age. She is obviously attracted to older men or she wouldn't be with you and if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
Sound advice. Thank you! (Yeah I never really like lieing. It makes me feel bad.)flexion_ said:There is no reason to lie. ...if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
I personally dont care what her age is as long as she's 18+ and looks good. :yes:rocky_mtn said:Does a DJ care what her age is? Or just that shes a hot babe?
I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
Doggystyle said:say "i am 36"
If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
That particular comment of yours Doggystyle really hit home with me.Doggystyle said:It will only be a problem if you act like it is
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My friend what does "C&F" stand for again????MacAvoy said:C&F would be another route. ..
Exactly.YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.