"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Always busy
- Thread starter nan3109
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
squirrels
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When are you trying to get in touch with you, and when are you trying to set up dates?
Also look at it this way, if she IS always genuinely busy, what kind of relationship would it be?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Reading questions like this still makes me cringe...
If she does'nt ask....forget her she probably has someone else.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dust 2 Dust
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when i used to go get numbers when i was single they would gimme their number after talking to me for less than 2 minutes or so and not even knwing who i was before that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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To this, I'd smile and say, "That's what the DATE is for!" If she's still hesitant, drop the subject and go on about your business as usual. If she reconsiders, SHE'LL tell YOU.
Women decide if we pass their "physical" test within talking to them for 3 minutes. That's what the whole speed dating fad was about. Use the dates to raise her interest level.
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As to the main poster. I agree w/ everybody's 2 strike rule. If after two date offers, she flakes or can't go BOTH times, and she doesn't give a CONCRETE, sincere counteroffer, drop it. Go about your business. Don't be a whiny *****. If she's in class or in your office, don't ignore her. But don't give her any more attention than anybody else either. She knows what you want. If she wants it too, she'll come after YOU.