"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nan3109

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when a girl is always busy and she can't ever hang out, good indication she isnt interested right?
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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Either she's not interested, or she's GENUINELY busy. You have to make the call.

When are you trying to get in touch with you, and when are you trying to set up dates?

Also look at it this way, if she IS always genuinely busy, what kind of relationship would it be?
 

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Originally posted by nan3109
when a girl is always busy and she can't ever hang out, good indication she isnt interested right?
right
 

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If she hasn't given you a counter offer, move on.

Reading questions like this still makes me cringe...
 

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girls like this really piss me off....when i ask them out or something and they said they can't, i just wait for them to ask me. I did my part by asking, so its her turn next.

If she does'nt ask....forget her she probably has someone else.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I prefer to follow the 2 strike rule. If I can't get any set plans after asking twice then I move on.
 

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ok, i get told by some that are blunt that they "barely know me"

when i used to go get numbers when i was single they would gimme their number after talking to me for less than 2 minutes or so and not even knwing who i was before that.
 

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When i read the topic title i knew what my post would be like:

NEXT!!
 

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No matter how busy someone is, they can ALWAYS find time to do something else, if they think there is something in it for them, even if only for an hour or two.
 

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Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
I prefer to follow the 2 strike rule. If I can't get any set plans after asking twice then I move on.
I agree. If she's interested, she'll make time. Too many women out there that will...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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usually not interested. Even the most busy girl in the world will generally jump threw hoops and bend over backwards to make time for someone they have high IL in. Looks like this one is a dud.
 

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Originally posted by nan3109
ok, i get told by some that are blunt that they "barely know me"
To this, I'd smile and say, "That's what the DATE is for!" If she's still hesitant, drop the subject and go on about your business as usual. If she reconsiders, SHE'LL tell YOU.

Women decide if we pass their "physical" test within talking to them for 3 minutes. That's what the whole speed dating fad was about. Use the dates to raise her interest level.

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As to the main poster. I agree w/ everybody's 2 strike rule. If after two date offers, she flakes or can't go BOTH times, and she doesn't give a CONCRETE, sincere counteroffer, drop it. Go about your business. Don't be a whiny *****. If she's in class or in your office, don't ignore her. But don't give her any more attention than anybody else either. She knows what you want. If she wants it too, she'll come after YOU.
 
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