"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Always busy
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
squirrels
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When are you trying to get in touch with you, and when are you trying to set up dates?
Also look at it this way, if she IS always genuinely busy, what kind of relationship would it be?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Reading questions like this still makes me cringe...
If she does'nt ask....forget her she probably has someone else.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dust 2 Dust
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when i used to go get numbers when i was single they would gimme their number after talking to me for less than 2 minutes or so and not even knwing who i was before that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
myfriendblu
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To this, I'd smile and say, "That's what the DATE is for!" If she's still hesitant, drop the subject and go on about your business as usual. If she reconsiders, SHE'LL tell YOU.
Women decide if we pass their "physical" test within talking to them for 3 minutes. That's what the whole speed dating fad was about. Use the dates to raise her interest level.
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As to the main poster. I agree w/ everybody's 2 strike rule. If after two date offers, she flakes or can't go BOTH times, and she doesn't give a CONCRETE, sincere counteroffer, drop it. Go about your business. Don't be a whiny *****. If she's in class or in your office, don't ignore her. But don't give her any more attention than anybody else either. She knows what you want. If she wants it too, she'll come after YOU.