"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Always busy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
squirrels
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When are you trying to get in touch with you, and when are you trying to set up dates?
Also look at it this way, if she IS always genuinely busy, what kind of relationship would it be?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Reading questions like this still makes me cringe...
If she does'nt ask....forget her she probably has someone else.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dust 2 Dust
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when i used to go get numbers when i was single they would gimme their number after talking to me for less than 2 minutes or so and not even knwing who i was before that.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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To this, I'd smile and say, "That's what the DATE is for!" If she's still hesitant, drop the subject and go on about your business as usual. If she reconsiders, SHE'LL tell YOU.
Women decide if we pass their "physical" test within talking to them for 3 minutes. That's what the whole speed dating fad was about. Use the dates to raise her interest level.
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As to the main poster. I agree w/ everybody's 2 strike rule. If after two date offers, she flakes or can't go BOTH times, and she doesn't give a CONCRETE, sincere counteroffer, drop it. Go about your business. Don't be a whiny *****. If she's in class or in your office, don't ignore her. But don't give her any more attention than anybody else either. She knows what you want. If she wants it too, she'll come after YOU.