"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Always busy
- Thread starter nan3109
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
squirrels
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When are you trying to get in touch with you, and when are you trying to set up dates?
Also look at it this way, if she IS always genuinely busy, what kind of relationship would it be?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Reading questions like this still makes me cringe...
If she does'nt ask....forget her she probably has someone else.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dust 2 Dust
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when i used to go get numbers when i was single they would gimme their number after talking to me for less than 2 minutes or so and not even knwing who i was before that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
myfriendblu
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To this, I'd smile and say, "That's what the DATE is for!" If she's still hesitant, drop the subject and go on about your business as usual. If she reconsiders, SHE'LL tell YOU.
Women decide if we pass their "physical" test within talking to them for 3 minutes. That's what the whole speed dating fad was about. Use the dates to raise her interest level.
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As to the main poster. I agree w/ everybody's 2 strike rule. If after two date offers, she flakes or can't go BOTH times, and she doesn't give a CONCRETE, sincere counteroffer, drop it. Go about your business. Don't be a whiny *****. If she's in class or in your office, don't ignore her. But don't give her any more attention than anybody else either. She knows what you want. If she wants it too, she'll come after YOU.