She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
At your age dude, its not that bad of a problem YET. In about 3 more years its going to concern you more....HandyAndy said:Meh, i dont care about openly admitting that im a virgin, i dont think having sex is such a big deal, despite me saying things like "id do her" on a daily basis...I just hope it (being a virgin) doesnt last until im a full blown adult...
Same here. but i got over 2 months to be 23 yr old V. I'm such an optimist. lol. But I'm really surprised, I cannot imagine american guys not getting laid by the time they are out of high school. I mean I was in a boys school my whole life, and raised in a conservative society. But you guys, seriously, how come?Rebound Material said:IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think you've beatin yourself enough already. :crackup:ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
Rebound Material said:Since 1985!
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Since when is there a rule that if your a dude and your a virgin, your first has to be a virgin?Every year that you get older, it will become increasingly hard to find a girl your age that is still a virgin (only guaruntee that she's clean).
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh crap!....so that means my answer doesnt count huh?Tomatoes said:God and i thought 3 months was really bad!
I dont think you can include Virgins in this.
Since they have never had sex they dont know what they are missing....
(cough)LUKE SKYWALKER!(ahem)Tomatoes said:Intresting to know who is the oldest virgin thow...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.