That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
At your age dude, its not that bad of a problem YET. In about 3 more years its going to concern you more....HandyAndy said:Meh, i dont care about openly admitting that im a virgin, i dont think having sex is such a big deal, despite me saying things like "id do her" on a daily basis...I just hope it (being a virgin) doesnt last until im a full blown adult...
Same here. but i got over 2 months to be 23 yr old V. I'm such an optimist. lol. But I'm really surprised, I cannot imagine american guys not getting laid by the time they are out of high school. I mean I was in a boys school my whole life, and raised in a conservative society. But you guys, seriously, how come?Rebound Material said:IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think you've beatin yourself enough already. :crackup:ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
Rebound Material said:Since 1985!
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Since when is there a rule that if your a dude and your a virgin, your first has to be a virgin?Every year that you get older, it will become increasingly hard to find a girl your age that is still a virgin (only guaruntee that she's clean).
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oh crap!....so that means my answer doesnt count huh?Tomatoes said:God and i thought 3 months was really bad!
I dont think you can include Virgins in this.
Since they have never had sex they dont know what they are missing....
(cough)LUKE SKYWALKER!(ahem)Tomatoes said:Intresting to know who is the oldest virgin thow...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.