Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
At your age dude, its not that bad of a problem YET. In about 3 more years its going to concern you more....HandyAndy said:Meh, i dont care about openly admitting that im a virgin, i dont think having sex is such a big deal, despite me saying things like "id do her" on a daily basis...I just hope it (being a virgin) doesnt last until im a full blown adult...
Same here. but i got over 2 months to be 23 yr old V. I'm such an optimist. lol. But I'm really surprised, I cannot imagine american guys not getting laid by the time they are out of high school. I mean I was in a boys school my whole life, and raised in a conservative society. But you guys, seriously, how come?Rebound Material said:IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think you've beatin yourself enough already. :crackup:ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
Rebound Material said:Since 1985!
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Since when is there a rule that if your a dude and your a virgin, your first has to be a virgin?Every year that you get older, it will become increasingly hard to find a girl your age that is still a virgin (only guaruntee that she's clean).
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Oh crap!....so that means my answer doesnt count huh?Tomatoes said:God and i thought 3 months was really bad!
I dont think you can include Virgins in this.
Since they have never had sex they dont know what they are missing....
(cough)LUKE SKYWALKER!(ahem)Tomatoes said:Intresting to know who is the oldest virgin thow...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.