"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah it Sucks a ton bro.
I've also been told that it may be low testosterone. Do you think it may be that?
sazc
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It could be. It could be a side effect of medication that you are on, as well.
It's a no bueno condition that doesn't make a man feel good about himself. Talk to your doctor and see whay can be done. At the very least, there's Viagra.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yeah I'm 5'7" and around 125lbs not much muscle, some guys have told me that I may have low T.
devilkingx2
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yes that could cause any number of problems considering what the thyroid does in the body
it's far from normal. well, low sex drive is normal because every person has a different sex drive (some people masturbate 3 times a day, some people do it once a week or once a month), but erectile dysfunction at 20 is only normal if you're benjamin button
I'd definitely say that your early 20s and your teenage years are when your sex drive should normally be at its highest though, but anti-depressants are known to kill sex drive
99% chance your thyroid condition is what's causing both problems though
Sounds like your testosterone levels are low.
Your description of yourself fits low testosterone to a t. Get your levels checked.
Ok, how would you say my description fits it? I've been wondering about it. How would you say things would change if I got it fixed? Do you also think I'd be more successful and attract more women if I gain muscle and get bigger bro?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you think I'd be more successful and attract more women if I gain muscle and get bigger?
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
do you think you'd live in a bigger house if you had more money?
Lol, yeah I know it's pretty obvious. So would you say it's my thyroid or low T? Someone said I fit the description of low T. I'm going to get bloodwork done in a couple days.
Low sex drive is a huge sign. Poor erections is another. Little muscle mass.
Get your levels checked and see.
Yeah I'm getting it checked very soon. How would you say it would change my life once it gets back to normal and would you say getting bigger and muscle would have an impact with my success with girls.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
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Generic viagra from southeast Asia is about 75 cents, for the same pill Phizer gets $20 for.
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On certain girls yes. Girls are usually attracted to more masculine bigger guys. Womens mental state are wired to be attracted to the mate that will provide them with the strongest offspring.
A higher level of testosterone will increase your libido. It will give you more strength and energy. Working out will put on muscle. Which will also increase your testosterone which will certain girls more.
Problem with soy foods is it will increase estrogen levels which you don't want.
Yeah I've heard from some guys that the boost in testosterone will affect me and change me subconsciously without me even noticing it, do you agree? I'm trying to improve game with girls too I feel like the way they interact with me now compared to when I have a more lean,built and attractive body will be different though so wouldn't that also change how game would be?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.