"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Blue Phoenix
Hey, I like to dress with clothes' color matching!

Not always that's possible! Is that just my style or it's just considered a normal thing to do?
do you try to wear all the same matching colors? like all black or all white, all tan, etc?

I usually dress with color contrast, like dark grey slacks with black belt, black shoes, dark grey socks, light grey knit pull over sweater, white undershirt, watch with black leather strap, silver case, silver belt buckle...

sometimes I wear all black clothes in the winter.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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by Fatality: I think some of the accessories you listed are terrible. Especially the knee high boots. Those are so disgusting if you ask me. Any girl with a belly piercing is a slut. I don't mind hair coloring but I really don't think it makes a girl look any better. Same thing with cowboy hats.

Can somebody explain to me what is sexy about a tattoo? I think they are extremely trashy and these days you are more of a rebel if you don't have one.
By Poloblue: tattoos = instant second class citizen
If you guys really believe what you just wrote you have some weird internal issues. Fatality, you sound as if you have a lot of pent up hostility and frustration. Dude, let that shiet go. Polo, sounds like you have interesting style but your view on tattoos is so ludicrous it's funny.
 

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Originally posted by Soma
If you guys really believe what you just wrote you have some weird internal issues. Fatality, you sound as if you have a lot of pent up hostility and frustration. Dude, let that shiet go. Polo, sounds like you have interesting style but your view on tattoos is so ludicrous it's funny.
Pent up hostiltity and frustration? Why because I disagree with you? If a girl truly is sexy she shouldn't need accessories. If you think a girl needs that stuff than you are the one with weird internal issues.
 

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haha don't be so silly. Can you honestly say that after reading what you wrote you can't see the hostility in your words? You jumped to thinking that my observation was based on you disagreeing with me. Wow.

As for accessories, since I never said girls need accessories to be sexy, I'll just assume you were being rhetorical. Otherwise your silliness is just too...well, silly. So much silliness in this thread. hah
 

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Thanks, PoloBlue. Actually, the overcoat looks just like one worn by Benjamin Disraeli in a classic photo, probably taken when he was the Prime Minister of Great Britain (c. 1875). It is a classic late 1800s look. I was amazed the thing fit me. Not many people were 6'1" back then.

Color is an interesting thing. I like contrasts that go well, such as black against bright patterns or bold stripes. I'll often wear a black shirt with my flashiest suits.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Soma
haha don't be so silly. Can you honestly say that after reading what you wrote you can't see the hostility in your words? You jumped to thinking that my observation was based on you disagreeing with me. Wow.

As for accessories, since I never said girls need accessories to be sexy, I'll just assume you were being rhetorical. Otherwise your silliness is just too...well, silly. So much silliness in this thread. hah
Do you think I was screaming at the computer or something as I typed it? Now that's silly. I just thought that your opinion on accessories was rather "silly" as you say.:p

Maybe some time you can teach me how to read hostility through internet message boards. :)

Note: The smiley faces should make it harder for you to read my hostility:D
 

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Maybe some time you can teach me how to read hostility through internet message boards.
I'd be glad to. Send me $20 and a picture of your mom in the bathtub and we'll be jake.
 

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I'd be glad to. Send me $20 and a picture of your mom in the bathtub and we'll be jake.
I need your address.
 

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Originally posted by Blue Phoenix
Hey, I like to dress with clothes' color matching!

Not always that's possible! Is that just my style or it's just considered a normal thing to do?
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do you try to wear all the same matching colors? like all black or all white, all tan, etc?
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I mean, two parts of the clothes matching, like shirt with shoes or pants with shoes and so on.
 

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Originally posted by Fatality
I need your address.
haha! Good stuff, good stuff.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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don't go overboard with the "I don't give a ****" role, next you will be not brushing your teeth or taking a shower simply because you just didn't feel like it.

You can care about how you look and still come off like you don't give a ****.
 

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Which reminds me, do muggers actually conform to the stereotype and look like muggers themselves? Or do they go for a more Gap or QD kind of style ... :D
 

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Some of you guys are worse than women when it comes to trying to be stylish.

Wear whatever you want, whenever you want it. If its clean and comfortable, you're fine.

I've picked up women while wearing ripped jeans, old t-shrt with paint spots and an old pair of running shoes (While working outside and painting). I let the brain do the talking. Once they see a modest guy with an intelligent mind, they know you are unique.
 

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I've picked up women while wearing ripped jeans, old t-shrt with paint spots and an old pair of running shoes (While working outside and painting). I let the brain do the talking. Once they see a modest guy with an intelligent mind, they know you are unique.
I think you've got the wrong impression. The discussion is about dressing well and being stylish. Not picking up chicks by looking good.
 

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Personally, I love dressing "nice". It's usually Zanella pants, Dolce & Gabbana or Express shirts with kenneth cole shoes. Accessories, I've got a nice Citizen watch and that's it. It seems to be good for business the way that I dress and when picking up the ladies, it's business as usual. Although during the summer, I wear cutoffs just so all that time in the gym amounts to something.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I hope you don't mean you wear cut-off jeans.

Fag status in full effect.
 

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Originally posted by Soma
I hope you don't mean you wear cut-off jeans.

Fag status in full effect.
sounds like something the VILLAGE PEOPLE wear?

cut off jeans, shirt tied in a knot in the front, skipper's cap :eek:
 

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Hey I would like to tell you my style but I am usually in the buff... al-natural if you will. I figure that saves me all that time worrying about what to wear, and saves me time gettin in and from the shower.

BUT to those who do wear clothes check this word of advice. Well ok if you wear button up shirts check this word of advice.

CHANGE TO SNAPS!!!!!!!!!

Once when I was forced into social bondage (clothes) I wore a button up shirt (white-standford) with a olive green swearter v-neck (timberland) and some fine Celvin Klein Cargo (Beige) with a Seiko watch (silver) and my Platnum Hoop earrings.

Now with that said, I found my self dressed :( in a fiesty situation that called for fiesty un-dressing :) ..............
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.......................and!!!!!

BAM< BAM<BAM<BAM<BAM<BAM<BAM<>!!!!!!!!!!


There went all my buttons gone like black cats on July 1st. She Grabed my **** at the bottom and pulled it apart to unsnap it as fast as she could. She assumed I was wearing snaps instead of buttons.....????? (blond)

SO there you go no matter what you wear make it snaps, or be ready sew back on some buttons or ditch the artical of clothing.

MINE=2 cents.
 

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Now with that said, I found my self dressed in a fiesty situation that called for fiesty un-dressing ..............
Lmfao. Wow, that sucks. I've never seen snaps before...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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