"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A LADY FRIEND COMMITED A SUICIDE, and AFTER I PMD THE BF IF ITS TRUE. HE WANTS TO MEET WITH ME?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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taiyuu_otoko

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No, the 2 kids belongs to the deceased. not his.

That’s why it’s questionable.
I get they belonged to her. My question is where do they go now?

My concern is that that the dude that is going to inherit the kids, and he is meeting to try and lay them off on you.

Any chance he thinks they're yours?

Amy suicide note?

Girl's parents?

But pm on fb for a meet is a little suspicious.

High probability it's NOT just to get some answers. Either gonna try and blame you (won't wanna blame himself) or maybe kill you.
 

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WTF.

Maybe he just want to know how you knew her ?

Meet in public, talk.

People who are suicide survivor are all looking for answers. They head full of questions and yes they can be irrational.

Unless you have something to blame yourself for, you'll be fine
 

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Maybe he believes that you both had an affair and wants to question you about it
 

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OP either meet the dude or not

Personally I don't have facebook Im oblivious to other people who don't deal with me direct or vice versa it is what it is
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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He wants to meet? Fine, but it has to be on your terms. You choose time, place, date, etc. Like someone else said, public place with lots of witness and cameras and stuff. Maybe have him come to your home a put a nanny cam. Or meet in a public park that's close to a police station. Or a mall that has security.
 

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I don’t like the sound of this at all. Probably wouldn’t meet with this guy alone.
Yes, i think your right. And it’s inappropriate meeting him instead of going to the wake directly.
 

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I get they belonged to her. My question is where do they go now?

My concern is that that the dude that is going to inherit the kids, and he is meeting to try and lay them off on you.

Any chance he thinks they're yours?

Amy suicide note?

Girl's parents?

But pm on fb for a meet is a little suspicious.

High probability it's NOT just to get some answers. Either gonna try and blame you (won't wanna blame himself) or maybe kill you.
The kids future is questionable, I don’t think the bf would adopt them since they’re not married.

Girl’s parents are far away from our place. Living in a different country I guess.

No ofcourse the kids are not mine.

I will find out later because I’m going to the wake later tonight.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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He wants to meet? Fine, but it has to be on your terms. You choose time, place, date, etc. Like someone else said, public place with lots of witness and cameras and stuff. Maybe have him come to your home a put a nanny cam. Or meet in a public park that's close to a police station. Or a mall that has security.
That’s what im thinking but he told me when im close to the location where he’s at, he’ll just pm me the place where it’s convenient to meet.
 

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Alright guys, shows over.

Went to the funeral and indeed they don’t believe my lady friend commited a suicide.

One of the kids heard a loud voice then suddenly disappeared before they declared that she committed suicide.

In short there’s a foul play.

Autopsy report says that there’s a thumb pressure on her neck.

The 2 kids are going to stay with the grandmother.

BF left the country.

There will be an ongoing investigation with the police and criminal investigation stuff.

I’m glad that my gut feeling was right as some of you also had. (There’s something not right about bf trying to meet with me before her body was placed at the funeral).

Thank you for your time helping me analyze the situation.

Very helpful forum/community indeed.
 

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Alright guys, shows over.

Went to the funeral and indeed they don’t believe my lady friend commited a suicide.

One of the kids heard a loud voice then suddenly disappeared before they declared that she committed suicide.

In short there’s a foul play.

Autopsy report says that there’s a thumb pressure on her neck.

The 2 kids are going to stay with the grandmother.

BF left the country.

There will be an ongoing investigation with the police and criminal investigation stuff.

I’m glad that my gut feeling was right as some of you also had. (There’s something not right about bf trying to meet with me before her body was placed at the funeral).

Thank you for your time helping me analyze the situation.

Very helpful forum/community indeed.
Clue. I knew it
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your spider senses probably saved your ass. To bad about your friend. My sympathies.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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