"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A LADY FRIEND COMMITED A SUICIDE, and AFTER I PMD THE BF IF ITS TRUE. HE WANTS TO MEET WITH ME?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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taiyuu_otoko

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No, the 2 kids belongs to the deceased. not his.

That’s why it’s questionable.
I get they belonged to her. My question is where do they go now?

My concern is that that the dude that is going to inherit the kids, and he is meeting to try and lay them off on you.

Any chance he thinks they're yours?

Amy suicide note?

Girl's parents?

But pm on fb for a meet is a little suspicious.

High probability it's NOT just to get some answers. Either gonna try and blame you (won't wanna blame himself) or maybe kill you.
 

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WTF.

Maybe he just want to know how you knew her ?

Meet in public, talk.

People who are suicide survivor are all looking for answers. They head full of questions and yes they can be irrational.

Unless you have something to blame yourself for, you'll be fine
 

soulforge

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Maybe he believes that you both had an affair and wants to question you about it
 

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OP either meet the dude or not

Personally I don't have facebook Im oblivious to other people who don't deal with me direct or vice versa it is what it is
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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He wants to meet? Fine, but it has to be on your terms. You choose time, place, date, etc. Like someone else said, public place with lots of witness and cameras and stuff. Maybe have him come to your home a put a nanny cam. Or meet in a public park that's close to a police station. Or a mall that has security.
 

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I don’t like the sound of this at all. Probably wouldn’t meet with this guy alone.
Yes, i think your right. And it’s inappropriate meeting him instead of going to the wake directly.
 

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I get they belonged to her. My question is where do they go now?

My concern is that that the dude that is going to inherit the kids, and he is meeting to try and lay them off on you.

Any chance he thinks they're yours?

Amy suicide note?

Girl's parents?

But pm on fb for a meet is a little suspicious.

High probability it's NOT just to get some answers. Either gonna try and blame you (won't wanna blame himself) or maybe kill you.
The kids future is questionable, I don’t think the bf would adopt them since they’re not married.

Girl’s parents are far away from our place. Living in a different country I guess.

No ofcourse the kids are not mine.

I will find out later because I’m going to the wake later tonight.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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He wants to meet? Fine, but it has to be on your terms. You choose time, place, date, etc. Like someone else said, public place with lots of witness and cameras and stuff. Maybe have him come to your home a put a nanny cam. Or meet in a public park that's close to a police station. Or a mall that has security.
That’s what im thinking but he told me when im close to the location where he’s at, he’ll just pm me the place where it’s convenient to meet.
 

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Alright guys, shows over.

Went to the funeral and indeed they don’t believe my lady friend commited a suicide.

One of the kids heard a loud voice then suddenly disappeared before they declared that she committed suicide.

In short there’s a foul play.

Autopsy report says that there’s a thumb pressure on her neck.

The 2 kids are going to stay with the grandmother.

BF left the country.

There will be an ongoing investigation with the police and criminal investigation stuff.

I’m glad that my gut feeling was right as some of you also had. (There’s something not right about bf trying to meet with me before her body was placed at the funeral).

Thank you for your time helping me analyze the situation.

Very helpful forum/community indeed.
 

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Alright guys, shows over.

Went to the funeral and indeed they don’t believe my lady friend commited a suicide.

One of the kids heard a loud voice then suddenly disappeared before they declared that she committed suicide.

In short there’s a foul play.

Autopsy report says that there’s a thumb pressure on her neck.

The 2 kids are going to stay with the grandmother.

BF left the country.

There will be an ongoing investigation with the police and criminal investigation stuff.

I’m glad that my gut feeling was right as some of you also had. (There’s something not right about bf trying to meet with me before her body was placed at the funeral).

Thank you for your time helping me analyze the situation.

Very helpful forum/community indeed.
Clue. I knew it
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Your spider senses probably saved your ass. To bad about your friend. My sympathies.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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