You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on themTheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. What is that supposed to mean?
Hmm, I thought that it was something like that, but then I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that. But it would make sense 'cause I don't usually hit on every girl I meet. there's just too many of them lol. I'm more about having fun anyway. Sometimes it by hitting on chicks, other times it's just by chilling with friends.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Honestly? I think it's 'cause I'm so fvcking awesome. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm energetic, charismatic and I have no trouble talking with women. I think that the reason that they think I'm ghey is because I'm just completely un-AFC, but I don't always hit on girls. I guess the combination makes them think that I must be ghey.Bussey said:Why do YOU think they ask if you're Gay? Honest question.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That is so true. As long as they don't say it offensively it means what Naughtyboy meant.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Do you get a rap from your male buddies for being feminine? If not, it's what I said in the first placeTheEdgeOf said:I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that
Lol, this is something quite common with me.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Let me guess, you have a lisp and talk in a feminine voice.TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It a good thing, (unless you are gay) cause women fine gay men very attractive... Partly cause gay men dont like then and are non caring and because gay men tend to be "pretty boys"TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.