She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Something severely wrong with these statements.ChapStick said:first impression of me is that I'm gay....I carry myself in a strong masculine way.... I wear tight fitting designer clothing.
lol...woods said:Go grab one of these chicks and start making out with her. She might get into it. If not, say "you're hot, and I'm not gay. What do you expect me to do?"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lol x's 2Blue Phoenix said:When you ask a woman out and she denies, you can say "I bet she´s gay"!!
Hear me out, because I'm not sure you got my message correctly. I'm basically conveying to people that they should look and dress in a way that makes them feel confident. Who cares what other people think?The Inside Man said:Something severely wrong with these statements.![]()
LOL, once again a girl's ego makes waves.Mr. Me said:Take it as a compliment. Most guys that are good looking, dress well, have nice bodies, have a personality, are charming, smart and don't drool over women and become wussy over them, are gay. That's all.
That's good, short circuits her and puts her on the defensive. You probably won't hear "because most guys would be dying to be with me why aren't you acting this way?".Mr. Me said:A good answer may be "What do you think?"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.