"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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a few girls asked if I was ghey

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A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheEdgeOf said:
A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. What is that supposed to mean?
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
 

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Naughtyboy said:
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Hmm, I thought that it was something like that, but then I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that. But it would make sense 'cause I don't usually hit on every girl I meet. there's just too many of them lol. I'm more about having fun anyway. Sometimes it by hitting on chicks, other times it's just by chilling with friends.
 

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Why do YOU think they ask if you're Gay? Honest question.
Honestly? I think it's 'cause I'm so fvcking awesome. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm energetic, charismatic and I have no trouble talking with women. I think that the reason that they think I'm ghey is because I'm just completely un-AFC, but I don't always hit on girls. I guess the combination makes them think that I must be ghey.

Yeah, the part about me being awesome was irrelevant, but I thought you should know.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dude, this happens to me too.
girls would tell my friends that they thin i'm gay.

but i think it's because the clothes i wear are a little tight.
or that i just don't hit on them?
 

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Naughtyboy said:
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
That is so true. As long as they don't say it offensively it means what Naughtyboy meant.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that
Do you get a rap from your male buddies for being feminine? If not, it's what I said in the first place

This happens to everyone man. There's a b1tch in my friends circle who i turned down many times. Now every time we meet up she accuses me me of being a closet gay :D Women cant take rejection
 

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Naughtyboy said:
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Lol, this is something quite common with me. ;)
 

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so much for them taking you seriously. stop acting g-ay and you won't have these problems
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If that happens alot, or often like the other poster said, that is not a good thing. Work on your masculinity, hit the weights, get in touch with your primal force. No one's ever said that about me and I would be insulted if they did. Theres a difference between being good looking in a masculine way and being a pretty boy with no muscle tone like all the male models these days. Go for the former.
 

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This happened to me once, and it was this girl that thought she was all that, but she isn't. She kept trying to advance but I would always reject her, then she started this rumor about me and a friend. According to her we were gay lovers. She said this while I wasn't around. Thankfully, I had some friends of mine stand up for me, and halted her. Yeah she is on my sh!t list now.
 
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Just tell them yes you are "happy" because that's what gay means in the dictionary. Then take her out and show her how not homosexual you are.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
Let me guess, you have a lisp and talk in a feminine voice.
 

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Maybe it's posture.

I used to walk with my head a little to the front and my shoulders kinda to the front too, and I got that question a lot of times. Like 2 years ago. When I was 14. :nervous:

This one person actually was asking me stuff like
"Are you happy?"

"Why?"

"Do you like to be happy?"

She later on admitted that she was unsure if I was gay or not. :crackup:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I wish a girl would ask me if I'm gay.. I'd tell her to come over and find out.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
It a good thing, (unless you are gay) cause women fine gay men very attractive... Partly cause gay men dont like then and are non caring and because gay men tend to be "pretty boys"

You can have any of them at this point.
 

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maybe they want to know why you're so happy?

anyway thats not a good look
 

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Many people have asked me if I was gay. Usually a girls first impression of me is that I'm gay, but after they talk to me, they realize that I'm straight because I carry myself in a strong masculine way. I do like to take care of my appearance, I wear tight fitting designer clothing, and like to keep my complexion nice. I don't see anything gay with actually putting forth an effort to dress better than most clowns. I don't care that I'm being labeled a pretty boy. Change because you want to change, and if it's really a problem. If it's not broke, don't fix it. I don't care if anyone labels me gay or metrosexual or anything of that nature, because my appearance makes ME feel confident, and I really don't give a **** about what anyone else says.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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