I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on themTheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. What is that supposed to mean?
Hmm, I thought that it was something like that, but then I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that. But it would make sense 'cause I don't usually hit on every girl I meet. there's just too many of them lol. I'm more about having fun anyway. Sometimes it by hitting on chicks, other times it's just by chilling with friends.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Honestly? I think it's 'cause I'm so fvcking awesome. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm energetic, charismatic and I have no trouble talking with women. I think that the reason that they think I'm ghey is because I'm just completely un-AFC, but I don't always hit on girls. I guess the combination makes them think that I must be ghey.Bussey said:Why do YOU think they ask if you're Gay? Honest question.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is so true. As long as they don't say it offensively it means what Naughtyboy meant.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Do you get a rap from your male buddies for being feminine? If not, it's what I said in the first placeTheEdgeOf said:I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that
Lol, this is something quite common with me.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Let me guess, you have a lisp and talk in a feminine voice.TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
It a good thing, (unless you are gay) cause women fine gay men very attractive... Partly cause gay men dont like then and are non caring and because gay men tend to be "pretty boys"TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.