You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on themTheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. What is that supposed to mean?
Hmm, I thought that it was something like that, but then I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that. But it would make sense 'cause I don't usually hit on every girl I meet. there's just too many of them lol. I'm more about having fun anyway. Sometimes it by hitting on chicks, other times it's just by chilling with friends.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Honestly? I think it's 'cause I'm so fvcking awesome. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm energetic, charismatic and I have no trouble talking with women. I think that the reason that they think I'm ghey is because I'm just completely un-AFC, but I don't always hit on girls. I guess the combination makes them think that I must be ghey.Bussey said:Why do YOU think they ask if you're Gay? Honest question.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That is so true. As long as they don't say it offensively it means what Naughtyboy meant.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
Do you get a rap from your male buddies for being feminine? If not, it's what I said in the first placeTheEdgeOf said:I started to think maybe I was coming just off as feminine or something like that
Lol, this is something quite common with me.Naughtyboy said:It means that you are attractive, but not making any moves on them. This is making the girls a bit insecure about their attractiveness, they try and rationalise it by thinking you are probably gay and therefore not making the moves on them
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Let me guess, you have a lisp and talk in a feminine voice.TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It a good thing, (unless you are gay) cause women fine gay men very attractive... Partly cause gay men dont like then and are non caring and because gay men tend to be "pretty boys"TheEdgeOf said:A little while ago, a few girls asked my friends, while I wasn't around, if I was ghey. It was really confusing, What does it mean?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.