"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition

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Welcome!

As one of the host of the competition and an AA "graduate," I would like to welcome our new participants. You will face many obstacles and challenges in the upcoming weeks. It will begin with simple steps with increasing pace and intensity as time goes by. Only a single winner will stand at the end. Furthermore, the participant who makes the most progress each week, will get to give Gray and I a challenge, through which we will compete against each other. We will share successes and null results. This is going to be fun.

I used to be terrified of the approach; and let me tell you: it never goes away completely, you just have to overcome the fear with your desire to meet women. You are the only one who can do this on your behalf. So what's it going to be? Change and growth or hesitation and masturbation?

Let the battle begin on February 18th :box:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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After being dumped by that 5, I guess an AA competition is alright / I have no day game whatsoever ; this should be a huge challenge!
 

Gray The Prince

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm so stoked for this. I got rejected in some different ways (telling something to a random girl and they just walk off saying "yeah ok") haha. I loved it.
 

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Count me in sir!

I reckon I've got about 10 numbers off cold approaching girls in my entire life so this could be interesting!!!
 

TDH

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I might have to enter this competition
 

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There better be some crazy challenges.

I hope we eventually have to hit on girls in front of their dads, hit on girls who are alone with a guy (who seems like just a friend), and hit on girls while their car is stopped at a red light!

Apocalypse opener too
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wolfbones

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sageproduct said:
There better be some crazy challenges.

I hope we eventually have to hit on girls in front of their dads, hit on girls who are alone with a guy (who seems like just a friend), and hit on girls while their car is stopped at a red light!

Apocalypse opener too
I am so not comfortable with this. :nervous:
 

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Great thread. I'm not going to join the contest, but I'm sure I will steal some of these challenges and do them on my own time. :up:
 

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Even though this is a competition.. are we gonna motivate each other? I need that. I wrote this in my first post but I believe you people have read over it.
 

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Wolfbones said:
Even though this is a competition.. are we gonna motivate each other? I need that. I wrote this in my first post but I believe you people have read over it.
Competition is motivation, aim to win
A Don Juan would want no less.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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nroug7 said:
Competition is motivation, aim to win
A Don Juan would want no less.
I see! Well to be honest.. this is exciting and I already feel motivated. :D
 

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Wolfbones said:
I am so not comfortable with this. :nervous:
Good! Comfort zones are for pvssies. Time to step up and see Wtf you got young'un.
 

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Participants as of 2/15/13 at 11:35 pm CST
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Dali tx o
nroug07
gunner26
JohnChops
Nobodycares1
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Remember guys, you have until Sunday at 11:59 pm to sign up!
 

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Bumping this up.

Also, Purefilth, I just don't want to get my ass kicked, lol. I'm just careful, that's all.
 

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Wolfbones said:
Bumping this up.

Also, Purefilth, I just don't want to get my ass kicked, lol. I'm just careful, that's all.
In that situation - try chatting to the father first,:flowers: and completely ignore the girl, make him comfortable with you and slowly include her - saves on the asskicking.:box:

Basically use him as a pivot. :up:

Its a bit like meeting the gf's parents for the first time.
:cool:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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