3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition

[Packers2010]

yesterday i was so horny i just spent the day watching porn. then fapped. ( i fapped this morning too, then got rid of the pron.) so there goes my 11 days of no fap.

i went to the club and i wasn't feeling it. i did talk to this one girl who was pretty cute. she seemed to like me and as she was going off to find her friends i got her number. ( got numbers 2 weeks in a row now)

which is good. towords the end of the night i was thinking of trying to take her home, but i saw another guy getting her number. so i just left. ( very chodey.)

so i'm pretty upset atmyself this morning. i didn't " run the train" and another guy not her number. dam it!

I guess i still feel like i don't trust the fundamentals i have built. i gess i need to work on that.

i feel pretty cruddy today too. like i am getting a cold, plus i am tired. so i'm not sure if i am going to go out tonight. might rest up. next weeks is easter here for me. so al the clubs are putting events on. so it's going to be a better weekend.

there is an even on Wednesday and i hardly go out on a Wednesday. so i'm gunna go to that also.

most likely i will text the girls number i got last night this arvo. if she doesn't text back i will text tomorrow then drop the number.

if she texts back today i will try set up for the date tonight. see what happens. I'll keep you updated.

i'm not sure if me getting numbers now is a momentum thing or i can get numbers now. i still feel like i am a noobie at this, yet now i can drive a girl home? maybe i'm not giving my self enough credit. or i'm just being stupid... i really need to get into therapy

 

[Purefilth]

So it occurred to me today why a bartender that I've had serve me half a dozen times got a lot friendlier to me last night when I was leaving the bar. She was working the floor and I'm on at the bar. But the number I got last Saturday to finish the weekly challenge happened while this girl was bar tending.

I think the fact that I got out of my seat and went to talk to and end up getting the number of the girl actually upped my cred with this girl. Even though she's married I definitely got a flirtatious vibe from her as I was leaving. I even stopped to talk with her for 2 or 3 minutes on my way out.

I could be wrong, but that's the affirmation I'm going to give myself as I hit it this weekend.

Girls respect game.


If this was the first time she'd seen you in action, then there would be a new light shining on you to her.

 

[Purefilth]

yesterday i was so horny i just spent the day watching porn. then fapped. ( i fapped this morning too, then got rid of the pron.) so there goes my 11 days of no fap.

i went to the club and i wasn't feeling it. i did talk to this one girl who was pretty cute. she seemed to like me and as she was going off to find her friends i got her number. ( got numbers 2 weeks in a row now)

which is good. towords the end of the night i was thinking of trying to take her home, but i saw another guy getting her number. so i just left. ( very chodey.)

so i'm pretty upset atmyself this morning. i didn't " run the train" and another guy not her number. dam it!

I guess i still feel like i don't trust the fundamentals i have built. i gess i need to work on that.

i feel pretty cruddy today too. like i am getting a cold, plus i am tired. so i'm not sure if i am going to go out tonight. might rest up. next weeks is easter here for me. so al the clubs are putting events on. so it's going to be a better weekend.

there is an even on Wednesday and i hardly go out on a Wednesday. so i'm gunna go to that also.

most likely i will text the girls number i got last night this arvo. if she doesn't text back i will text tomorrow then drop the number.

if she texts back today i will try set up for the date tonight. see what happens. I'll keep you updated.

i'm not sure if me getting numbers now is a momentum thing or i can get numbers now. i still feel like i am a noobie at this, yet now i can drive a girl home? maybe i'm not giving my self enough credit. or i'm just being stupid... i really need to get into therapy

If you fap - you lose your drive to get laid.

if you hadn't fapped, you would've been more agressive and gone for the lay earlier.

Note that in a club - i dont go for numbers. i go to get them out of the club and out of their panties.

Numbers dont mean SH!T. Plus I forget names so easily - kinda awkward


Daygame? number up.

Night game - Go for the lay.
i mean hey, everyones a slut for the night right?

 

[Packers2010]

If you fap - you lose your drive to get laid.

if you hadn't fapped, you would've been more agressive and gone for the lay earlier.

Note that in a club - i dont go for numbers. i go to get them out of the club and out of their panties.

Numbers dont mean SH!T. Plus I forget names so easily - kinda awkward


Daygame? number up.

Night game - Go for the lay.
i mean hey, everyones a slut for the night right?

yeah i know this, though i am new, I did this so i could find her later when she was leaving. gunna text her in a bit i think

 

[coachD]

As I find myself with only one "approach" of an HB8 at this point...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ruhFmBrl4GM

Not getting rid of the confidence and happiness, but F*** Pride. It's holding me back. I'm going to err on the side of too much boldness today and tonight.

F Pride

Some good reading here. Especially rule number 13.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

 

[coachD]

As I find myself with only one "approach" of an HB8 at this point...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ruhFmBrl4GM

Not getting rid of the confidence and happiness, but F*** Pride. It's holding me back. I'm going to err on the side of too much boldness today and tonight.

F Pride

Some good reading here. Especially rule number 13.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

All of that sounded great this morning. But I go out and it's a friggin wasteland of talent. Nothing but old people or teenagers. I'll try again tonight at the bars. This really feels like work.

 

[Packers2010]

wow coach it's not just me having a bad weekend.

last night I made 4 approaches if that. didn't get warmed up properly. it was such a crappy night. let the club at like 1 am.

i think you win this week coach. though it's Easter here in aus this weekend. there is a dress up party at different clubs on Wednesday Thursday and Sunday.

i'm not sure when we have to have our approaches in by. but if you want to battle it out again this weekend. ( today being monday for me.) i'll be happy to do that.

or if you want to go out again tonight ( sunday for you) and beat me thats cool too. you deserve it more then me.

i think maybe we should put a clause in this comp to say a vet can't win it. he can only come second. might be fairer for the noobs out there.

 

[coachD]

You still have until midnight my time. As I type this it's 10:21 AM my time. So about 13.5 hours. I'm going to try to get the two numbers, but I have a busy day with predictable people crossing my path. I don't think it's going to happen but I'll try. I've got 3 HB8 approaches right now, but no numbers. Loads of 6/7s cross my path most days.

We'll see what happens today. Regardless, I have improved tremendously thanks to this board and challenge.

 

[coachD]

Looks like I'll lose. I practiced my shtick on a hb7 at the grocery store, full report to follow. Thanks for helping me advance. Hopefully I don't fall back to AFC life.

 

[coachD]

Monday:

cute talk HB8.5 working at a breastaraunt as a hostess. I talk to her on the way out about her height and if she was an athlete. I get the vibe that she's younger than her looks and move on. HB8 1/4 #0/2


Wednesday:

First two days back from spring break were tiring, so I did the homebody thing.

Tonight we had a banquet to end our season and I decide to stop at my favorite bar for a beer and see what's doing.

Busy but no HBs to speak of. One HB8 waitress that I'd never recognized before last Friday after crashing and burning at the country dance club.

THEN:

I was chilling at a bar and the waiters from THIS restaurant were there partying. All of the sudden this HB8 start yelling across the bar, "I know you! " she recognised me from the bar she works at. I never did much about it as she was with friends.

BACK TO NOW:
I walk in and she says, "you went to XYZ the other night".
Me: maybe
HB8: I was yelling at you.
Me: haha...(smiling with eye contact and confident stance)

I didn't advance because she was working and "in the weeds". Still, cool and a possibility.

HB8.5 comes in and sits next to me with her friend. The bar was full so these two chairs were her only choice. Normally I'd just look a this girl out of the corner of my eye and take a mental picture for later, but when the opportunity arose I complemented her on her watch. She said thanks and that it was really a guys watch. Later I was talking to some other people next to me about "Cement Mixer" shots. Within a few minutes HB8.5's friend (HB5) starts talking about cement mixer shots. I interject and we talk about that for a minute. HB8.5 says it's the Bailey's that makes the mixer solidify. So really, it's an approach because I would have normally just tried to steal glances at her and never talked to her. With the way she angled her body towards the HB5 (from sit down until leaving) it was difficult for me to go for the number. It's not like she ignored me when I talked to her, but I didn't feel comfortable going outside my comfort zone.

Looking back the following morning, I should have been bold with kino. I just don't know how to do that quite yet. I'm reading about being bold. Hopefully I'll develop that in the coming days.

Still...HB8 2/4 #0/2

Thursday:

I go to a former favorite sports bar. It's changing though. I chat up an older gal who's probably a HB8. Don't get a #. HB8 3/4. #0/2

The obvious trend is that I can't make the # move. Later I go to another sports bar and chat up the married bartender I referred to in an earlier post.

Friday:

dance class kind of Sucks tonight. Go watch the end of a college game I wanted to see. Tired so I go home.

Saturday:

theme for the day, fatties and elderly. I try and day game at the bookstore and grocery store but nothing. The only girls that didn't fit into this equation were teenagers. Not messing with that ****.

The night scene is more of the same. I can attract 6s and 7s but the 8s aren't too be found. I may try another place, but it's not looking good.

Sunday:

I went on my jog (decided to train for a half marathon) and saw an HB8 getting out of her car. I said hi and asked how she was. She looked surprised that I said something but responses warmly. This may be weak but I'd have never said anything to her before this contest. So I'm counting it as an approach. HB8 4/4 #0/2

Went to dance class and had fun. There's an HB8 that I opened in the 3 minute conversation week. I have to be careful or I'll develop a oneitis with her. We have a blast dancing but since I have to count it's hard to talk while dancing (at least for now). Still I catch her looking at me when we're not together and another girl asked me if she was my girlfriend, so the vibe seems to be there. Anyway, during break I make a point to dance with her during 2 of the 3 songs. I'll get her number after class (difficult to while dancing ). At the end of class she had to leave early, but made a point to come over and say she'd see me next week. The instructor was still teaching, so I felt weird trying to go for her number. Plus she was on a hurry. Excuses are bs, but that's what happened.

No numbers as of yet, but I'm improving. Hopefully ill keep working on the coming weeks.

I haven't included several hb6-7 interactions. It's feast or famine in my part of the world. Thanks for a great time guys.

Closing...I didn't get numbers so I lose. Still, it's like I said earlier. I'm getting more comfortable with approaching. I practiced on the HB7 at the grocery but didn't number close. Baby steps. I think I'm close to turning the corner with this.

 

[Packers2010]

Closing...I didn't get numbers so I lose. Still, it's like I said earlier. I'm getting more comfortable with approaching. I practiced on the HB7 at the grocery but didn't number close. Baby steps. I think I'm close to turning the corner with this.

goood effort man.. but one of us has to win!

 

[coachD]

Packers, did you post a report?

 

[Gray The Prince]

Good work everybody.


Congratulations to CoachD, you are the 2013 Anti Approach Anxiety Champion!!! :cheer: :cheer: :yes: :yes: :yes:

You have went above and beyond and stood out from the competition. You have came a long way and will only improve from here.


Packers, good job as well. You have improved from 5th to 2nd. (I don't remember how you did in 2011) Keep up the momentum and don't look back. You have some good things going for yourself.:rockon:



This wraps up yet another year. I'm your host, former AA Champion GTP. Good night, Good Luck, and keep on DJing!

 

[coachD]

Thanks for doing this Gray. Time to number close.

 

[Uncharted]

Congrats!

 

[Mr. Bond]

Good job. I hope everyone continues these habits.

 

[Packers2010]

Good work everybody.


Congratulations to CoachD, you are the 2013 Anti Approach Anxiety Champion!!! :cheer: :cheer: :yes: :yes: :yes:

You have went above and beyond and stood out from the competition. You have came a long way and will only improve from here.


Packers, good job as well. You have improved from 5th to 2nd. (I don't remember how you did in 2011) Keep up the momentum and don't look back. You have some good things going for yourself.:rockon:



This wraps up yet another year. I'm your host, former AA Champion GTP. Good night, Good Luck, and keep on DJing!

BOOOOOOOOO!

congrats man! well deserved champ!

 

[coachD]

Update:

I've had a decent couple of weeks since the challenge. But tonight was the best.

I take dance classes and apparently I'm good enough to elicit compliments from the girls and instructors. It's basic level stuff, but still...

So anyway. I'm at level 2 this month. I try and dance with anyone I can. The HB7+ is rare. Mostly older widows and divorcees, so I'll grab anybody if as long as I don't have to run to grab a girl.

HB8 joins this month and is in level 1. I dance with her a couple of days ago and tonight she's there again. I'm dancing with the 60 year old widows and just trying to get better. If there's an HB I'll grab her. But I have no problem dancing with the women who nobody else picks. So while I'm dancing with one of the older ladies I see this HB8 looking at me and talking to her dance partner saying, "See, coachD is doing it".

Interlude:

I've been reading up on ****y funny. Trying to incorporate that into my approaches. The problem is most of the women don't really give me any reason to bust on them. I'm not necessarily looking for notches in the belt so I don't feel like I should force it yet; I'd be happy getting three HBs that could develop into a monogamous relationship. Take them and spin them until the "one" turns up. CF seems to be designed to bed girls quickly. I'd rather use it to play girls off of each other until I find a girl I'm happy having a LTR with.

Back to dance class:

During break the aforementioned HB8 says, "You have to save a dance for me".

As she's walking off I say/blurt, "Then you'll have to get in line". A guy I'm standing next to laughs and says that he'll have to remember that one. I'd say he's better looking than me, but I'm taller and probably have more "knowledge" of the game.

She didn't respond, so I'm not sure if she heard me.

Long story short (too late). I dance with her after class and we talk about going out to the clubs. She says that she wants to go out but doesn't have anyone to go with. Without skipping a beat (thanks sosuave) I pull out my phone and say give me your number and you can go with me.

She looks surprised but not repulsed. She puts her number in and I'm trying to play it cool.

Now I need advice. I'm going to text her in the morning. What would your first text be? I'm thinking something along the lines of, " Hey____, I had fun dancing with you last night. Hope you got home safe".

I've read elsewhere that sending some sort of mixed signal like using the word 'buddy' or 'friend' might be good for that first text. Anyone agree?

I've had a decent couple of weeks. Mostly me approaching girls who are below my level. I got pissed at myself for that, but it's probably good practice. Tonight was great though. Hottest girl I've DJed since coming to this board.

 

[Vidrio]

Now I need advice. I'm going to text her in the morning. What would your first text be? I'm thinking something along the lines of, " Hey____, I had fun dancing with you last night. Hope you got home safe".

I've read elsewhere that sending some sort of mixed signal like using the word 'buddy' or 'friend' might be good for that first text. Anyone agree?

I've had a decent couple of weeks. Mostly me approaching girls who are below my level. I got pissed at myself for that, but it's probably good practice. Tonight was great though. Hottest girl I've DJed since coming to this board.

You really shouldn't build rapport over text if you don't have to. If you see her regularly, you build rapport in person. You should only text her if you're trying to set up a date. The text you're thinking about sending serves no purpose. It doesn't help you out at all in your interactions with her. There's a thread about why texting kills relationships that I can't post a link for because I'm on mobile. You should search for it. Also, you should start a journal so you don't have to keep posting in this thread.