"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition

Masculinity

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Welcome!

As one of the host of the competition and an AA "graduate," I would like to welcome our new participants. You will face many obstacles and challenges in the upcoming weeks. It will begin with simple steps with increasing pace and intensity as time goes by. Only a single winner will stand at the end. Furthermore, the participant who makes the most progress each week, will get to give Gray and I a challenge, through which we will compete against each other. We will share successes and null results. This is going to be fun.

I used to be terrified of the approach; and let me tell you: it never goes away completely, you just have to overcome the fear with your desire to meet women. You are the only one who can do this on your behalf. So what's it going to be? Change and growth or hesitation and masturbation?

Let the battle begin on February 18th :box:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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After being dumped by that 5, I guess an AA competition is alright / I have no day game whatsoever ; this should be a huge challenge!
 

Gray The Prince

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm so stoked for this. I got rejected in some different ways (telling something to a random girl and they just walk off saying "yeah ok") haha. I loved it.
 

twistedi

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Count me in sir!

I reckon I've got about 10 numbers off cold approaching girls in my entire life so this could be interesting!!!
 

TDH

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I might have to enter this competition
 

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There better be some crazy challenges.

I hope we eventually have to hit on girls in front of their dads, hit on girls who are alone with a guy (who seems like just a friend), and hit on girls while their car is stopped at a red light!

Apocalypse opener too
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Wolfbones

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sageproduct said:
There better be some crazy challenges.

I hope we eventually have to hit on girls in front of their dads, hit on girls who are alone with a guy (who seems like just a friend), and hit on girls while their car is stopped at a red light!

Apocalypse opener too
I am so not comfortable with this. :nervous:
 

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Great thread. I'm not going to join the contest, but I'm sure I will steal some of these challenges and do them on my own time. :up:
 

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Even though this is a competition.. are we gonna motivate each other? I need that. I wrote this in my first post but I believe you people have read over it.
 

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Wolfbones said:
Even though this is a competition.. are we gonna motivate each other? I need that. I wrote this in my first post but I believe you people have read over it.
Competition is motivation, aim to win
A Don Juan would want no less.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nroug7 said:
Competition is motivation, aim to win
A Don Juan would want no less.
I see! Well to be honest.. this is exciting and I already feel motivated. :D
 

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Wolfbones said:
I am so not comfortable with this. :nervous:
Good! Comfort zones are for pvssies. Time to step up and see Wtf you got young'un.
 

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Participants as of 2/15/13 at 11:35 pm CST
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Remember guys, you have until Sunday at 11:59 pm to sign up!
 

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Bumping this up.

Also, Purefilth, I just don't want to get my ass kicked, lol. I'm just careful, that's all.
 

Purefilth

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Bumping this up.

Also, Purefilth, I just don't want to get my ass kicked, lol. I'm just careful, that's all.
In that situation - try chatting to the father first,:flowers: and completely ignore the girl, make him comfortable with you and slowly include her - saves on the asskicking.:box:

Basically use him as a pivot. :up:

Its a bit like meeting the gf's parents for the first time.
:cool:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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