Ryan Adams
Master Don Juan
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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yes. Just say "ok cool" and nothing else or just don't respond at all.I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Next. You are nothing but a toy to her.She basically quit communicating through text haha alllll snapchat what should i do?
Date other women. Your head will stay in the window whenyou follow your own lead. Not hers. All your eggs are in her basket. You need to spin more platesYou all are right i need to chill acting like a lite kid. Once i like a girl my head goes out the window. I dont think im to late just yet but ill just go with the flow and keep texting to a minimum.
Interested girls do not confuse you Ryan. If she wanted to be with you she would answer your texts. She wouldn't leave it 100% up to snap chat.I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just be a d***. There's a lot going on here. I would ignore her snaps, just stop even looking at them. Text and say "let's do XXX on XXX" If she does not counter, she is no longer interested. Soudsl ike she wants to keep you as an orbiter...Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It means your chances of banging her are somewhere between 0 and minus 50...Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I would 100 percent ignore everything on snap chat. Don't look at it. Don't respond to it. Do not ask her when she is free. I told you in my previous message, march to the beat of your drum and follow your lead. Not hers.I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.
When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
Or toy with you because it keeps her enterained.Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
This girl is how old?? Most girls you should be banging by a few meet ups. Do you feel like you're getting mixed signals??? If you truly think so. Take initiative and tell her,Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.