Ryan Adams
Master Don Juan
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- Dec 31, 2016
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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes. Just say "ok cool" and nothing else or just don't respond at all.I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Next. You are nothing but a toy to her.She basically quit communicating through text haha alllll snapchat what should i do?
Date other women. Your head will stay in the window whenyou follow your own lead. Not hers. All your eggs are in her basket. You need to spin more platesYou all are right i need to chill acting like a lite kid. Once i like a girl my head goes out the window. I dont think im to late just yet but ill just go with the flow and keep texting to a minimum.
Interested girls do not confuse you Ryan. If she wanted to be with you she would answer your texts. She wouldn't leave it 100% up to snap chat.I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Just be a d***. There's a lot going on here. I would ignore her snaps, just stop even looking at them. Text and say "let's do XXX on XXX" If she does not counter, she is no longer interested. Soudsl ike she wants to keep you as an orbiter...Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It means your chances of banging her are somewhere between 0 and minus 50...Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I would 100 percent ignore everything on snap chat. Don't look at it. Don't respond to it. Do not ask her when she is free. I told you in my previous message, march to the beat of your drum and follow your lead. Not hers.I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.
When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
Or toy with you because it keeps her enterained.Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
This girl is how old?? Most girls you should be banging by a few meet ups. Do you feel like you're getting mixed signals??? If you truly think so. Take initiative and tell her,Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.