"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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2 dates went great. Suddenly went sorta cold?

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Yes. Just say "ok cool" and nothing else or just don't respond at all.
 

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You all are right i need to chill acting like a lite kid. Once i like a girl my head goes out the window. I dont think im to late just yet but ill just go with the flow and keep texting to a minimum.
Date other women. Your head will stay in the window whenyou follow your own lead. Not hers. All your eggs are in her basket. You need to spin more plates
 

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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
Interested girls do not confuse you Ryan. If she wanted to be with you she would answer your texts. She wouldn't leave it 100% up to snap chat.
I would next her personally but id if you want one more kick at the can you say to her "dinner thursday night, you and i. I will pick you up at 8pm."

If she says anything except yes or a complete counter offer you delete her contacts and her number and move on to the next 2 or 3 plates.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok i understand. Heres what i just got. I said ok when are you free she said thurs and fri she has a meeting she doesnt know what time she will get off. I dont know if shes lying or not. Pretty sure shes telling the truth. At this point what should i do?
 

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I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.

When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
 
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Maybe her snaps are to everyone? Sounds like you dove in too quickly. Make your intentions clear, date to have secks somewhere or no date at all...
 

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Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
 

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Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
Just be a d***. There's a lot going on here. I would ignore her snaps, just stop even looking at them. Text and say "let's do XXX on XXX" If she does not counter, she is no longer interested. Soudsl ike she wants to keep you as an orbiter...

Women have two types of friends... Girlfriends and boyfriends... If you are not fvcking her, you are her girlfriend!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just told her what days im free after she previously agreed to do a me come over date. She told me she had something on thur and fri. I told her any day was fine she jumped around it kindof. But when i ignore her snaps she blows me up on it. Im at a crossroads i want a clear answer.
 

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Anything but a yes or a solid counteroffer is a NO. So you have your answer
 

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Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
 

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Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
It means your chances of banging her are somewhere between 0 and minus 50...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
 

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I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.

When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
I would 100 percent ignore everything on snap chat. Don't look at it. Don't respond to it. Do not ask her when she is free. I told you in my previous message, march to the beat of your drum and follow your lead. Not hers.

Text her "thursday at 8 dinner i will pick you up." If she confirms. The go on thursday and pick her up. If she bla bla blas in her text and it isn't a yes. Next. You don't answer, you don't send more texts. You go meet other women and stop wasting your time on this one.
 

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
Or toy with you because it keeps her enterained.

Are you entertained by her behaviour ?
 

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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
This girl is how old?? Most girls you should be banging by a few meet ups. Do you feel like you're getting mixed signals??? If you truly think so. Take initiative and tell her,

"hey I enjoy hanging out and you're cool, but I'm getting mixed signals from you especially you blowing up my Snapchat when im busy, but you're always busy and can't hangout. I'm looking to date and have fun, I don't need another chick friend. I think we should stop hanging out".

That's what I would text her, because ignoring her doesn't seem to work. You verbally telling her to knock **** off and you backing off will either confirm her wishy washy behavior and she won't text back, or she'll blow up your phone apologizing for her bull****.
 

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Went back to her place after setting a date Wednesday messed around. Didnt fvck but im sure next 1 or 2 dates i should seal the deal. Dont understand her hot and cold behavior though?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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