Ryan Adams
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I'll figure out her available dates here tonight. If she says ughhh this week isn't looking good i should just go no contact? Dont respond to that at all?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
2 dates went great. Suddenly went sorta cold?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CMNILS87
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Yes. Just say "ok cool" and nothing else or just don't respond at all.
Next. You are nothing but a toy to her.
Date other women. Your head will stay in the window whenyou follow your own lead. Not hers. All your eggs are in her basket. You need to spin more plates
Interested girls do not confuse you Ryan. If she wanted to be with you she would answer your texts. She wouldn't leave it 100% up to snap chat.
I would next her personally but id if you want one more kick at the can you say to her "dinner thursday night, you and i. I will pick you up at 8pm."
If she says anything except yes or a complete counter offer you delete her contacts and her number and move on to the next 2 or 3 plates.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ryan Adams
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Ok i understand. Heres what i just got. I said ok when are you free she said thurs and fri she has a meeting she doesnt know what time she will get off. I dont know if shes lying or not. Pretty sure shes telling the truth. At this point what should i do?
Ryan Adams
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I want go try one last kick. And get something out of her. She snapchats me all day and says these cute things etc etc. Im in a new town/job so i either want her to forget me and stop talking forever or we move on with this.
When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
When i dont answer she blows my phone uo over snapchat. Its so confusing.
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Ryan Adams
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Her snaps are to me talking to me. Saying my name etc. From here forward how do i make it clear what i want without being a ****
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Just be a d***. There's a lot going on here. I would ignore her snaps, just stop even looking at them. Text and say "let's do XXX on XXX" If she does not counter, she is no longer interested. Soudsl ike she wants to keep you as an orbiter...
Women have two types of friends... Girlfriends and boyfriends... If you are not fvcking her, you are her girlfriend!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I just told her what days im free after she previously agreed to do a me come over date. She told me she had something on thur and fri. I told her any day was fine she jumped around it kindof. But when i ignore her snaps she blows me up on it. Im at a crossroads i want a clear answer.
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Bump guys.
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Ok she said her apartment is a mess and she wont have time to clean it up by tommorrow but she will go on a date. Absolutly? Wtf is this
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It means your chances of banging her are somewhere between 0 and minus 50...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ryan Adams
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Then why are we still going out on dates she still hits me up allll day even though its not making out she still kisses me etc etc..... either she wants to take it slow orrrr
I would 100 percent ignore everything on snap chat. Don't look at it. Don't respond to it. Do not ask her when she is free. I told you in my previous message, march to the beat of your drum and follow your lead. Not hers.
Text her "thursday at 8 dinner i will pick you up." If she confirms. The go on thursday and pick her up. If she bla bla blas in her text and it isn't a yes. Next. You don't answer, you don't send more texts. You go meet other women and stop wasting your time on this one.
Or toy with you because it keeps her enterained.
Are you entertained by her behaviour ?
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This girl is how old?? Most girls you should be banging by a few meet ups. Do you feel like you're getting mixed signals??? If you truly think so. Take initiative and tell her,
"hey I enjoy hanging out and you're cool, but I'm getting mixed signals from you especially you blowing up my Snapchat when im busy, but you're always busy and can't hangout. I'm looking to date and have fun, I don't need another chick friend. I think we should stop hanging out".
That's what I would text her, because ignoring her doesn't seem to work. You verbally telling her to knock **** off and you backing off will either confirm her wishy washy behavior and she won't text back, or she'll blow up your phone apologizing for her bull****.
Ryan Adams
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Went back to her place after setting a date Wednesday messed around. Didnt fvck but im sure next 1 or 2 dates i should seal the deal. Dont understand her hot and cold behavior though?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.