You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you fbcked up do your thang until she requests you to come back.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Been too long. 5 almost 6 months. 3 months NC (after some AFC post break up), then I initiated, it worked, she called, then it backfired, then I disappeared again. Gotta re-attract her somehow. She’s strong and stubborn when she wants to be. Weak for me when I have her around me though when I touch her. I wanna marry this idiot eventually. I don’t believe in “impossible”. Though admittedly this is a pretty tough situation. It has been much easier to get new women. But still. We were together almost 6 years. And none of the new ones come close.
Marry her for what? So you can complain about a bad relationship? Just stay on your purpose. Fvck new chycks she will come sniffing around. Dont worry about reattracting chicks. Focus on the females whose giving you puzzy.
Well.... 1. She’s a 10. 2. she doesn’t want kids, (neither do I). 3. Not materialistic. 4. She doesn’t have that feminism bull**** in her head. 5. She helped me build my business without asking for anything in return. 6. She makes good money so divorce doesn’t worry me as much as it did when I refused to marry her. 7. She’s a 10 lol
Take away the 10 and make it a 6 and is it the same?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Of course not. But still. Great girl. And she IS.
Savage af...I like that
Well, I’m no expert but have been here a couple years now, maybe closer to 3. I married a 10, 3 awesome children, was with her 17 years. It wouldn’t be easy by any means, but could get her back. I don’t even want to try because I know I would succeed and I don’t want her. She’s no longer a 10 btw. She’s 40 and overweight and a mean one to boot today.
I understand that. and Agree with it. But I’m here for help and to learn. I’m not what u think I am. However, I respect those who know more than I do. So I’m not going to argue with you. Makes no sense. It’d be like a yellow belt trying to tell a black belt they should be scared of them.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Then learn buddy.
I know. I’ve done this. I’m turning 32 this year. Not some kid. That’s how I got her (and others), and everything else I’ve accomplished in my life in the first place. She’s just the only one I cared about keeping. No LTR before her. Only plates. Didn’t even know what plates were when I had plates. I just didn’t like any “ONE” enough to be monogamous with. Plates are easy. LTR.... not so much apparently.
I thought we had this conversation in PM?
We did. I’m working on it. Thanks to you I’m back on track. I’d just like additional input. I’d hate for this one to slip away forever.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Okay then.
When I say back on track, I mean my own shyt. So thank you. But I Still haven’t heard from her or anything. I hate leaving things up to fate. I’m a take control kinda guy. If I wait too long, I know someone WILL marry her. If I post a pic of her, you’ll understand.