"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Are you attracted to me?"
- Thread starter snowdog
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"Oh please, don't flatter yourself....I barely know you! For all I know you could be a psycho woman who loves to cut men up into little pieces and eat them for dinner"
Do it in a joking manner but leave the doubt there. That puts you in a position of power. She's going to be wondering if you're attracted to her unlike most guys who give her signs of interest almost immediately.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tao walker 2005
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It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:
"Yeah, a little bit, but...
"If she asks "but what???"
"Hang out with me & find out."
The idea is to give her a little bit of bait, so she doesn't fear rejection and flake, but leave her wanting more.
Blue Phoenix
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Later on you might say "You´re not that bad afterall (wink)".
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
g: "Are you attracted to me?"
C: (Laughing) "Well, I was when I asked you out, but that was before I realized you were so needy."
Change subject.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Danger said:
Igetit!
Moderator
Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:
I'd be curious to know how the convo got to this point. I know that Snowdog wasn't just walking down the street minding his own business,then all of the sudden,out of the blue,some girl just approached him and said,"Excuse me,I have a question for you. Are you attracted to me?".
Count Chocola
Banned
Well, judging from where we stand today, "Do you think I am attracted to you"?
You don't have to answer directly.
But if you want to, the ideal response would be "If I say yes, will you give me a massage? I like massages from attractive women"
There are tons of possibilities.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Daydream Engineer
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Get up on this, show me microphone bliss
She says Are you attracted to me,
do you want to get inside my body,
I tell her its depends, i give her a maybe,
i tell her maybe, maybe your my type,
but, ill rather show you with actions,
because im that kind of suave guy,
who if i was, i would spank your butt,
then tell you, its tight, sure why not
then kiss you, give you butterflies in your gut,
seducing you with my crystal cavern black eyes
so the next time you ask, and i answer the Why,
if am attracted to you, whether its day or night,
be prepared for a swell good of a Jammin' time,
and if that answers your question, good
because rhythm is just a dancer, just like I believe it should.
Meh and if she rejected me and put my in the friend zone i would just play it off in a slightly humorous way anyway.
ARE U ATTRACTED TO ME--------
-a little bit
-ya, you are KINDA cute
-yes but answers...........its dark in here, not wearing my contacts, i've been drinking, i am so not taking you home, more like a friend,
-what do u think, wouldn't you like to know..........
-ummmm you are not really my type
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.