Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Physical Preferences

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As guys we are probably more visual than women and have many physical preferences when it comes to beauty standards for the opposite sex.

Women do make a big deal about male height and hair when it comes to online dating, but are less strict about that if they meet you in public. How about you?
Do your physical preferences for women change for women online vs. in public? Do you have physical dealbreakers?
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My physical requirements for women are the same no matter how I meet them. I won't even consider a girl that is 15 or more pounds overweight or has short hair. Also small b00bs are not mine thing at all. I used to date a girl that had fake b00bs and when she got them out she was left with some flat miniature pancakes that I struggled to get past. Girls that have no curves and straight hips like guys are also gross to me.

I really can't complain about women and their preference for height and hair, when my preferences are far more stringent.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Natural indicators of good health.

A healthy bodyweight, bright eyes, good skin, no tattoos and usually cheerful (people can have bad days).
 

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Long and healthy (brown) hair, dark eyes, soft lips, cute face, feminine softness also on the inside - that's my type.

My dealbreakers are: too tall, arrogant, too basic, too much makeup on, smokes, drinks coke, has unhealthy hair, or some bad pimples on her body, walks like a transformer, etc...

I wonder if the main preference of everyone is related to their first romantic/intimate experience... Such is my case.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I cant lie I'm a dog...I like both skinny and thick women...sometimes I can even be attracted to a " unattractive " women who has some kinda x factor....(hb6 )

All colours too . . darkskinned ,blonde/ redhead /brunette ,Asian..perhaps Arabic women have a slight edge to me but thats due to the "forbidden fruit " factor.
 

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I'm attracted to a pretty wide variety of women...honestly if they look like they are going to be fire in the bedroom and are above average looking I'm good.

Some of the best sex I've ever had has been with women with less endowed chests...almost like they know they have to try harder. :lol:
 

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Do your physical preferences for women change for women online vs. in public? Do you have physical dealbreakers
I have very few dealbreakers.
Speaking of height, I prefer shorter girls ("shawties"), ideally 5-2' to 5-6", but it's not a dealbreaker. Don't think I would like it if she was taller than I am though (5'10").
Definitely prefer no tattoos at all. I wouldn't reject for one or two small tasteful ones, I guess, but I don't like them. Obviously sleeves or the like are out.
Thin is better but I'm okay with a little extra weight, depending on how they carry it. I am a breast man so sometimes the larger breasts can be worth the trade off for a little more weight. Small boobs can be okay too, but she'd better be fit.
 

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I don’t smoke, and I tend to be most attracted to people who maintain a healthy lifestyle.

One common denominator among the women I’ve dated is that they tend to have distinctive eye colours, such as green, honey, or blue. I also used to be opposed to tattoos, but I’ve become more open-minded, especially when they’re thoughtfully chosen and suit the person.
 

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I don’t smoke, and I tend to be most attracted to people who maintain a healthy lifestyle.

One common denominator among the women I’ve dated is that they tend to have distinctive eye colours, such as green, honey, or blue. I also used to be opposed to tattoos, but I’ve become more open-minded, especially when they’re thoughtfully chosen and suit the person.
Oh..smoking is out for me...I don't even like weed so anyone who is a weed head is out too. Once in a while, whatever.

But I didn't mention that since that technically isn't a physical trait :lol:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.”

― Ayn Rand
 
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“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.”

" Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . . "

― Ayn Rand
This is why I reject women who don't fit my criteria.

This discussion is conceptually similar to this thread:

 

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A good body primarily.
I’d be happy enough with a ‘butterface’ chick with a banging body, thats usually the best I can get ( for casual ) anyways..

As the old saying goes
“You don’t look at the mantelpiece when you’re poking the fire “! :rofl:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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well… if you think about it, it’s mostly true ;)
Someone should create a thread "what are/were your best, hottest, most erotic sexual positions or sexual things you ever did with your partner whether steady, a plate or random ONS."

I bet it would be an interesting discussion! :lol:
 
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“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.”

" Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . . "

― Ayn Rand
If you randomly arranged the words in the quotes above, it would make about the same amount of sense.

Give me back my time, Plinco.
 

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No refunds bud but I'll do a product recall

eh what the he11, this is my kind of girl:

It looks like the message is "be selfish when it comes to sex, but promiscuity is immoral", which implies serve yourself but starve yourself by holding out for the best you can get. Which jibes with some of your threads actually lol.

Nice of you to erase the "promiscuity is immoral" part, but hopefully someone else is saved the minor headache.
 

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It looks like the message is "be selfish when it comes to sex, but promiscuity is immoral", which implies serve yourself but starve yourself by holding out for the best you can get. Which jibes with some of your threads actually lol.

Nice of you to erase the "promiscuity is immoral" part, but hopefully someone else is saved the minor headache.
Ayn Rand was operating from a philosophic system, in which she concluded that selfishness is moral as long as it is rational and sex is so much of an important integration of values that to cheapen it would be a dis-value to the individual.

Which of my threads does this jibe with?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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