"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Brutal HeightPill: 6ft4 dude changes his height from 6ft4 to an average 5ft9 and go's from getting a constant 70 matches to 0.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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people need to realize that this is only relevant to online dating.

if you're a woman you likely have thousands of matches to choose from, and if you could filter out what you don't want then of course you'll filter it out.

imagine you're a guy that can have sex with any woman you want, of course you're going to filter out the ones with no tits or ass, ones of a specific race, ones with short hair, etc etc.

nothing about this is surprising.

water is wet.
 
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people need to realize that this is only relevant to online dating.

if you're a woman you likely have thousands of matches to choose from, and if you could filter out what you don't want then of course you'll filter it out.

imagine you're a guy that can have sex with any woman you want, of course you're going to filter out the ones with no tits or ass, ones of a specific race, ones with short hair, etc etc.

nothing about this is surprising.

water is wet.
Very well, but why does a 5ft4 > 5ft5 > 5ft6 girl need a 6ft4 guy?

Maybe I can understand a 5ft10 > 5ft11 girl who is in the 99th percentile height for her gender wanting a 6ft3>6ft4 guy who is in the 99th % for his gender, but some 5ft4 girl writing off a 5ft9 guy is being absurd.

And you can't compare it to slim/normal weight guys filtering out fatties and wanting a slim/normal weight girl in their league. Normies often compare this.
 

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Very well, but why does a 5ft4 > 5ft5 > 5ft6 girl need a 6ft4 guy?

Maybe I can understand a 5ft10 > 5ft11 girl who is in the 99th percentile height for her gender wanting a 6ft3>6ft4 guy who is in the 99th % for his gender, but some 5ft4 girl writing off a 5ft9 guy is being absurd.

And you can't compare it to slim/normal weight guys filtering out fatties and wanting a slim/normal weight girl in their league. Normies often compare this.
because they're delusional and women don't operate in the real world
 

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This works similarly in reverse:

If prime Lucy Hale were on OLD, and all one had to go on was a written description of her(Small of stature. Not especially chesty), she wouldn't have too many mouths watering. Photographic evidence is required
in order to comprehend her charms

Most of us men, even when conventionally handsome, aren't dead ringers for Jacob Elordi. Only way around that = Going out into the wild and pursuing our desires
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The YT guy is facially unattractive. He needs height to compensate for mediocre face.
I put 5'8" on my Tinder profile & did great. I have a good face, but poor height.
If you lack height, you need face.
if you lack face, you need height.
This is not groundbreaking.
Water is wet.
 

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Everyone lies so much that when women see five nine, they think you are probably five six. If it says six four, you're at least not short. It's like if dating profiles made a woman list her weight. Are you going to believe what she says, or add 20+ pounds?
 

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The kicker to that's guy experiment is the word apps. "Height matters on dating APPS"

Of course its going to matter on dating apps, because woman use their LOGICAL brain. "This is what my brain and society tells me I should want; "6'4, dark, handsome, rich, 6 pack, etc." so I'm going with it. Now if the same woman met a man at a Starbucks or something, and they connected, his height wouldn't matter as long as he is taller than her.

I hate to say this, but men, if you are not at least 6'0, wouldn't go online, you'd be better off meeting women in natural settings. I've gone out with hot women meeting them naturally and I'm not 6'0 at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It is what it is.

Imagine a woman saying " men like women with double Ds" . It's the same thing. Because yes, men do like that but it doesn't mean that if yiu ding have double D you won't be able to get a man. You can be less tall and still get p00sy.

Some men are nepo baby's. Ofcourse they'll have an advantage. Deal with it.
 

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Everyone lies so much that when women see five nine, they think you are probably five six. If it says six four, you're at least not short. It's like if dating profiles made a woman list her weight. Are you going to believe what she says, or add 20+ pounds?
It's OVER for HonestHeightCels.
 

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People are always be acting like everyone is superficial for only caring about external qualities. Women complain about men doing this too.

You CAN'T know someone's personality right away, so what else can you go off of other than things like looks, height, ethnicity, etc. This is just how it works even in person, but a dating app it kind of forces it.

People are going to just write off certain traits in people even though they know that there are probably exceptions they'd make, it's not worth the effort to sift through all the others.

I mean I'm sure a lot of women would date a 5'6 man if he had enough qualities she was looking for. Likewise some men would probably be willing to date a chubby girl if she was exceptional in other areas.

All that said, I resent how dating apps don't make woman put in their weight or body type, in fact as far as I know, it's usually not even an option in the first place! They just HAVE to make the apps completely one sided and gynocentric, as if women don't have enough leverage in the dating market as it is. You have to basically be a PI to be able to tell if they're fat or not. One of my friends is so good at it he can tell just from a face pic.
 
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All that said, I resent how dating apps don't make woman put in their weight or body type, in fact as far as I know, it's usually not even an option in the first place!
Its simple. Because if women listed their weight these dating apps would lose most of their female and male audience/ user base. They put the needs of women first. Its a business incentive to make you 'pay up' to see more profiles of normal-weighted or slim average looking women... or hot women (though hot women are rare on most apps).

There used to be a weight-filter on POF i remember it (around 2006?), but most women abused it. Fat women listed their bodytype as "average" (which means healthy BMI), which annoyed the guys.

Virtually all men who are healthy and average looking, thin/skinny etc would select women under 150/140lbs. Same with the Chads and tall handsome guys. Hardly any man wants a fatty (lets be honest) but most American/British/Anglosphere are fat (70% of them!) and online its probably higher.

Another reason is that slim/healthy weight average men get a LOW ELO score (swiped on less), where as slim healthy weight average women get a HIGH ELO score (swiped on a lot/tons). What this means is that healthy weight men -- due to their low ELO -- get shown profiles of women with LOW ELO scores, which is always the fat/obese/ugly chicks. Likewise, the slim average looking women get a HIGH ELO so are shown the guys with HIGH ELO scores whom are the Chads/tall attractive men/top 10%. Its a form of digital eugenics when you think about it. These apps are trying to get average healthy weight men to go on dates with disgusting pigs.

If there was a weight filter, Fat women would only be matched to the bottom % of men or their looksmatches (fat/ugly dudes) - which would make them frustrated/angry (hypergamy), even though that's their dating cohort.
 
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My earliest spell on tinder.. which IIRC was 2017 ish, I dont think i listed my height (5'4) but..I remember making a slight reference to it playfully. But matches..I did alright numbers wise and quality wise. or sure didn't feel like it wad a big thing.. last few times on there and Bumble, I've been pretty much invisible.. gone full circle in a few years. And thats with the height listed.. its ****, and does test your resolve and confidence receptors..
But apps will be apps.. water is wet.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Another reason is that slim/healthy weight average men get a LOW ELO score (swiped on less), where as slim healthy weight average women get a HIGH ELO score (swiped on a lot/tons). What this means is that healthy weight men -- due to their low ELO -- get shown profiles of women with LOW ELO scores, which is always the fat/obese/ugly chicks. Likewise, the slim average looking women get a HIGH ELO so are shown the guys with HIGH ELO scores whom are the Chads/tall attractive men/top 10%. Its a form of digital eugenics when you think about it. These apps are trying to get average healthy weight men to go on dates with disgusting pigs.

If there was a weight filter, Fat women would only be matched to the bottom % of men or their looksmatches (fat/ugly dudes) - which would make them frustrated/angry (hypergamy), even though that's their dating cohort.
It's OVER for LowEloCels.

BTW, it's not an acronym but rather a man's name:
 

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My earliest spell on tinder.. which IIRC was 2017 ish, I dont think i listed my height (5'4) but..I remember making a slight reference to it playfully. But matches..I did alright numbers wise and quality wise. or sure didn't feel like it wad a big thing.. last few times on there and Bumble, I've been pretty much invisible.. gone full circle in a few years. And thats with the height listed.. its ****, and does test your resolve and confidence receptors..
But apps will be apps.. water is wet.
I agree with your worldview. Women don't care about height as much as being turned off by the insecurity of it bothering the guy so much. I'm six two and a long time ago my wife left me for a series of short Indian guys named Raj. She said they were all good dancers.
 

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The YT guy is facially unattractive. He needs height to compensate for mediocre face.
I put 5'8" on my Tinder profile & did great. I have a good face, but poor height.
If you lack height, you need face.
if you lack face, you need height.
This is not groundbreaking.
Water is wet.
Face is always more valuable than height.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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