"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Which dance style do you own?

tesla8520

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I dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.

Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The one where I do what I feel and dance like nobody is watching, not giving two fvcks what anyone else thinks.

Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
 

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Ironically, it's the one that will almost always attract the most women, because it displays something that is almost universally attractive to women that can't be faked.
Speaking of that, this is one of my dance teacher.

A good man, as you can see, stays in his own skin. He's a really nice guy. He knows how to take a woman and lead her. Dancing helped create an aura of fun and humor in him.
I have always considered such a man to be ideal, but in my opinion, he laughs or it's just happy, too much.

It's really "too" happy in that sense. He has no expressions or moments of mystery... or intimidation.
I don't know how to explain it but I don't feel intimidated by him.
 

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The only dancing I like is slow dancing.

Slow grinding to R&B music or oldies, with her hands over my broad shoulders and my hands on her hips.

Bodies touching and lips kissing as we slow grind.

Grown folks shiit...y'all don't know nothin bout that. :lol:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I dance salsa, although lately I've been thinking about switching to other styles.

Salsa makes me feel a little too "feminine."
What dance styles do you know and have you practiced?
That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job

In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
 

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That's an easy fix, stop moving your hips so much lol that's her job

In all seriousness west coast swing is pretty awesome. She gets to do her crazy, sexy sh*t and I get to stand there and look amazing without sweating my balls off.
I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
 

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Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
 

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I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.

But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.

There's no going back, guys.

It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!

So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.

Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.

Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.

What do you think?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I do remember seeing some instruction on dancing where the said the guy's job is basically to highlight the woman while she does her thing. Kinda makes sense.
I think dancing helps men become comfortable with rejection (dancing in front of everyone), develop an idgaf attitude, gain mastery and control over their bodies, and become sensual.

But most importantly, it teaches you how to have fun with a woman's body.

There's no going back, guys.

It's as if when you learn to dance, you now know what to do physically to a woman to have fun with her physically, any woman!

So you no longer see two breasts and an ass, but rather all the elements that connect to her brain.

Great post, I wonder if there are other disciplines/activities a man can do in his life to take total control of having fun with a woman's body.

Besides sex, which is obvious, I was thinking about things like learning to give massages, and something like improvisation.

What do you think?


I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
 

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Line dancing with a bit of break dancing, and mixing some of my own moves if I really like the music.
Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Even at age 13, I considered line dancing to be incel (in as much as that term had been developed, LOL).
When I was in college, one of my buddies tried to hype us up for line dancing at a country bar on campus. I thought line dancing was corny as h*ll and thought it would be full of old folks and hill billy whales. But found out real quick, chicks dig it and the entirety of all the collegiate HB10s were congregated there.

If there is one regret I'm willing to admit and that's not picking up dancing as a hobby much earlier in my 20s like I did in my late 30s. I'd be slaying so much more poon much earlier in my life >.<
 

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I'm from Texas and still live here. C&W is my fav. And not just line dancing, We have the pooka, Texas 2-step, country waltz, cotton-eyed joe (line dance) and shottice (line dance). And my fav is the Texas Swing. Back in my Rock-star 20s & 30s we hit the clubs and bars on a regular basis. Facts are that almost All women Love to dance and most of them are really pretty good at it.
Pooka is pretty awesome, it's just triples the entire time. It's even better during oktoberfest with a legit pooka band.
 

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I don't really dance unless you count vaguely swaying my hips and/or grinding to be a "dance". I simply don't enjoy it. It's not a confidence thing - I can be completely alone in my home and drunk, listening to my favorite music, and I might not even tap my foot. It's just not my thing, in the same way that underwater cave diving is not a thing for most people.

I genuinely don't believe you need to dance to get results. The only reason to do it is if you like it. If the girl likes you it's probably going to devolve into grinding anyway so you might as well just skip right ahead to that part.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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