Plinco's cold approach journal

[Plinco]

It's time I update this pile of fcuk

10/15-10/16

Headed out to Orlando on a Thursday night. My three objectives were 1. humanize 2. remain emotionally present 3. Make at least five cold approaches. I made a total of six, and sought to push the envelope on remaining emotionally present. I would say technically mission accomplished, but it's bare minimum. What I should have done was to mass approach. I tried to target approach and drill down with conversation, but what I found out was that statistically my approach to conversation ratio is 5:1 roughly. Out of the six approaches, I had one short conversation, four cold shoulders. Something I should add too, is some of the negative feedback I was getting were some of the young men there. I noticed my mood depending on what they think, more so than people who are older.


10/22-10/23

I went to my line dancing place and did more socializing than I usually do. It felt great! I did a warm approach of the girl that I've had a crush on for months and she shot me down immediately.

10/22

A met a 3.5/10 24yo woman, whom I warm approach (I don't count warm approaches as a direct approach, because I do warm approaches practically every time I leave my house and not at work). I wasn't crazy for how she looked, but she seemed really cool so I set up a date with her walking around a park a few days later.

10/23-10/24

Went to Orlando on a Friday night and left early because there was hardly anyone there. Those who were there were not my crowd. I went to Orlando with the goal of doing at least 15 direct cold approaches while staying emotionally present. There were only a few girls I could have approached, but didn't feel compelled to. Most of what I saw were couples and older people there to drink alcohol at the bars. A bouncer told me that it's not as busy as a Thursday night would be. I wasn't interested in those women's low energy. I think of how else to explain it. I left feeling frustrated because I drove an hour and a half looking forward to making some kind of progress only to leave empty handed and drive back another hour and a half. The bouncer and I had a short conversation but then turned away from me to talk to another bouncer; I felt very little if any emotional investment in the conversation.

10/24

Number closed from a direct cold approach from a 6.5/10 27yo Brazilian woman at a grocery store. Messaged with her a bit on whatsapp a set up a date with her

10/25

I ended up banging the 3.5/10 24yo woman. She had a really cool personality, but she felt a bit too mature for me. Then she drops on me later that she is a single mom. She also says that her grandma suggested that she date older men, which I was a little humored and offended by that. She said to me that she didn't want to get serous with me, but liked hanging around me; we banged again on 11/03. Despite being 18 years or so younger, I think she's still a bit too mature for me.

Later that same day I went on a coffee date with the Brazilian woman, and it went really well. She's super cool, and we still chat, but again I think she's a bit too mature for me, despite being 15 years younger.

 

[Plinco]

11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.

11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.

 

[nicksaiz65]

11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.

11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.

Hell yeah, how is Orlando for game?

 

[Plinco]

Hell yeah, how is Orlando for game?

I haven't seriously tried gaming anywhere else besides my local area and Orlando, so I cannot give you a good answer based on my own experience. From a few other people I've heard from here and there, Florida in general is not as easy as other places, like New York or Phoenix. Of course Miami is a whole different animal altogether. Personally I cannot see how Florida in general is that bad; I think there's plenty of opportunity here, if you're in the right places.

 

[DonJefe19]

I haven't seriously tried gaming anywhere else besides my local area and Orlando, so I cannot give you a good answer based on my own experience. From a few other people I've heard from here and there, Florida in general is not as easy as other places, like New York or Phoenix. Of course Miami is a whole different animal altogether. Personally I cannot see how Florida in general is that bad; I think there's plenty of opportunity here, if you're in the right places.

How are the surrounding areas around Orlando? I was just there last week at Bonnet Creek. As nice as the Waldorf is, it was too family friendly for me.

 

[Plinco]

How are the surrounding areas around Orlando? I was just there last week at Bonnet Creek. As nice as the Waldorf is, it was too family friendly for me.

You'd have to know about the history and layout of Florida to really get an understanding of how and why it is what it is.

Before the 1950's and air conditioning, it was a backward swamp; a southern state after the civil war, much like Alabama or Georgia, but poorer. There's no old towns and cities like you have further north so the community structures are rural fruit growers and herdsmen (the soil and climate are not suitable for cereal crops) who were religious and gathered in small towns. This culture still exists but has become, or is becoming, over shadowed by the mass influx of new comers.

After WWII, and electricity and air conditioning became common, masses of people moved here in newly built suburbia and the urban planning centered around convince and not socializing. This has gotten much worse with the mass influx of retired boomers, building whole cities out of cow pasture swamp, complete with all of their big box stores and houses less than 20 feet apart. They think they are moving out of the city when in fact they are just transplanting their city ways to a different location. There used to be cow pasture a block away from my house, but now that cow pasture is turning into another suburban development plan.

The trick is, you have to know when and where to socialize with people here. In my experience, Friday and Saturday nights are a waste of time. Also, I have found only a few locations where meeting people are only possibilities. Most of my cold approaches locally are at grocery stores. There's tons of people here, but socializing is a bit of a hit or miss. The difficulties are the urban planning and the type of people who move here.