"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Plinco

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It's time I update this pile of fcuk

10/15-10/16

Headed out to Orlando on a Thursday night. My three objectives were 1. humanize 2. remain emotionally present 3. Make at least five cold approaches. I made a total of six, and sought to push the envelope on remaining emotionally present. I would say technically mission accomplished, but it's bare minimum. What I should have done was to mass approach. I tried to target approach and drill down with conversation, but what I found out was that statistically my approach to conversation ratio is 5:1 roughly. Out of the six approaches, I had one short conversation, four cold shoulders. Something I should add too, is some of the negative feedback I was getting were some of the young men there. I noticed my mood depending on what they think, more so than people who are older.


10/22-10/23

I went to my line dancing place and did more socializing than I usually do. It felt great! I did a warm approach of the girl that I've had a crush on for months and she shot me down immediately.

10/22

A met a 3.5/10 24yo woman, whom I warm approach (I don't count warm approaches as a direct approach, because I do warm approaches practically every time I leave my house and not at work). I wasn't crazy for how she looked, but she seemed really cool so I set up a date with her walking around a park a few days later.

10/23-10/24

Went to Orlando on a Friday night and left early because there was hardly anyone there. Those who were there were not my crowd. I went to Orlando with the goal of doing at least 15 direct cold approaches while staying emotionally present. There were only a few girls I could have approached, but didn't feel compelled to. Most of what I saw were couples and older people there to drink alcohol at the bars. A bouncer told me that it's not as busy as a Thursday night would be. I wasn't interested in those women's low energy. I think of how else to explain it. I left feeling frustrated because I drove an hour and a half looking forward to making some kind of progress only to leave empty handed and drive back another hour and a half. The bouncer and I had a short conversation but then turned away from me to talk to another bouncer; I felt very little if any emotional investment in the conversation.

10/24

Number closed from a direct cold approach from a 6.5/10 27yo Brazilian woman at a grocery store. Messaged with her a bit on whatsapp a set up a date with her

10/25

I ended up banging the 3.5/10 24yo woman. She had a really cool personality, but she felt a bit too mature for me. Then she drops on me later that she is a single mom. She also says that her grandma suggested that she date older men, which I was a little humored and offended by that. She said to me that she didn't want to get serous with me, but liked hanging around me; we banged again on 11/03. Despite being 18 years or so younger, I think she's still a bit too mature for me.

Later that same day I went on a coffee date with the Brazilian woman, and it went really well. She's super cool, and we still chat, but again I think she's a bit too mature for me, despite being 15 years younger.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Plinco

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11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.



11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.
 

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11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.



11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.
Hell yeah, how is Orlando for game?
 

Plinco

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Hell yeah, how is Orlando for game?
I haven't seriously tried gaming anywhere else besides my local area and Orlando, so I cannot give you a good answer based on my own experience. From a few other people I've heard from here and there, Florida in general is not as easy as other places, like New York or Phoenix. Of course Miami is a whole different animal altogether. Personally I cannot see how Florida in general is that bad; I think there's plenty of opportunity here, if you're in the right places.
 
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