"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Plinco's cold approach journal

Plinco

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It's time I update this pile of fcuk

10/15-10/16

Headed out to Orlando on a Thursday night. My three objectives were 1. humanize 2. remain emotionally present 3. Make at least five cold approaches. I made a total of six, and sought to push the envelope on remaining emotionally present. I would say technically mission accomplished, but it's bare minimum. What I should have done was to mass approach. I tried to target approach and drill down with conversation, but what I found out was that statistically my approach to conversation ratio is 5:1 roughly. Out of the six approaches, I had one short conversation, four cold shoulders. Something I should add too, is some of the negative feedback I was getting were some of the young men there. I noticed my mood depending on what they think, more so than people who are older.


10/22-10/23

I went to my line dancing place and did more socializing than I usually do. It felt great! I did a warm approach of the girl that I've had a crush on for months and she shot me down immediately.

10/22

A met a 3.5/10 24yo woman, whom I warm approach (I don't count warm approaches as a direct approach, because I do warm approaches practically every time I leave my house and not at work). I wasn't crazy for how she looked, but she seemed really cool so I set up a date with her walking around a park a few days later.

10/23-10/24

Went to Orlando on a Friday night and left early because there was hardly anyone there. Those who were there were not my crowd. I went to Orlando with the goal of doing at least 15 direct cold approaches while staying emotionally present. There were only a few girls I could have approached, but didn't feel compelled to. Most of what I saw were couples and older people there to drink alcohol at the bars. A bouncer told me that it's not as busy as a Thursday night would be. I wasn't interested in those women's low energy. I think of how else to explain it. I left feeling frustrated because I drove an hour and a half looking forward to making some kind of progress only to leave empty handed and drive back another hour and a half. The bouncer and I had a short conversation but then turned away from me to talk to another bouncer; I felt very little if any emotional investment in the conversation.

10/24

Number closed from a direct cold approach from a 6.5/10 27yo Brazilian woman at a grocery store. Messaged with her a bit on whatsapp a set up a date with her

10/25

I ended up banging the 3.5/10 24yo woman. She had a really cool personality, but she felt a bit too mature for me. Then she drops on me later that she is a single mom. She also says that her grandma suggested that she date older men, which I was a little humored and offended by that. She said to me that she didn't want to get serous with me, but liked hanging around me; we banged again on 11/03. Despite being 18 years or so younger, I think she's still a bit too mature for me.

Later that same day I went on a coffee date with the Brazilian woman, and it went really well. She's super cool, and we still chat, but again I think she's a bit too mature for me, despite being 15 years younger.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Plinco

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11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.



11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.
 

nicksaiz65

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11/02

My area flooded to the point that I felt that I should have built and ark and put a pair of each animal on it. The flood didn't touch my house, but there were houses not far from mine that got flood waters in them.



11/05-11/06

Went to Orlando on Thursday night and did 12 direct cold approaches. My approaches have gotten a little bit better.

11/08

My 35yo fwb wanted to fck me, and I gave her a "no." I'm going get around to making a separate thread about that and it will be glorious.
Hell yeah, how is Orlando for game?
 
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