"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women are context dependent

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Where a woman is, that's where she pairs up.

If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss.

Conversely, if she frequents artistic or intellectual circles, she'll be attracted to someone who has recognized status in those fields.


To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.

You might be tempted to think: "If she hangs out in such a ****ty environment, surrounded by human misery, it's because she enjoys being there!" The answer is: no.

It's true that she probably feels comfortable there. On the other hand, however, it's almost certain that she's there because no one has ever shown her that beyond, other worlds exist... often vastly better ones!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
 

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
I can confirm hot women love DJs. I literally did ZERO work and essentially had my choice of who I wanted to go home with virtually every Friday and Saturday night. :lol:
 

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All of your threads are context dependent

But yeah, local status is a trump card

status itself is context dependent
So it's the guy with the biggest status she has access to (ie not usually Il Capo)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.
One problem I had with Rollo was his "Iron Rules" concept. There are always exceptions.

I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
 

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Women are co dependent

Fixed it for you OP
 

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This is kinda silly because EVERYONE is context dependent.

If you are the hottest guy in the world but you grew up in a rural town with no major cities anywhere around, you might date the hottest girl in the town but she might be a 7 compared to you dating 9s in bigger cities.

But you wouldn't know any better because she would be the hottest girl you have available and every other guy would be jealous of you.
 

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I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
Zekko, you have a brilliant mind.
Does this also works in a LTR?

If she lost attraction but you as a man manage to go for your own way and then invite her in this new world where you are high in status.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Maybe you would date a 6 in the bigger city, since that 9 living in a big city, could access more guys?
It goes both ways
Not if you were extremely hot you wouldn't. You would have women falling all over you...or could just go on apps and fvck 5 a day.
 

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If she lost attraction but you as a man manage to go for your own way and then invite her in this new world where you are high in status.
Generally not a good idea to revisit failed relationships (they failed for a reason), but there's no doubt it happens. What you're describing is probably fairly rare though.

I've been watching a lot of these "Stoic" videos lately, and it's funny because the girl will make a mistake, and the stoic guy immediately shuts her down, and these guys almost never give second chances, no matter how much the girl begs and pleads. Usually she makes a pretty bad mistake or display of disrespect though. These guys are depicted as having it together so much, but somehow they always end up dating or married to these incredibly toxic women lol.
 
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