"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women are context dependent

jhonny9546

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Where a woman is, that's where she pairs up.

If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss.

Conversely, if she frequents artistic or intellectual circles, she'll be attracted to someone who has recognized status in those fields.


To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.

You might be tempted to think: "If she hangs out in such a ****ty environment, surrounded by human misery, it's because she enjoys being there!" The answer is: no.

It's true that she probably feels comfortable there. On the other hand, however, it's almost certain that she's there because no one has ever shown her that beyond, other worlds exist... often vastly better ones!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
 

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
I can confirm hot women love DJs. I literally did ZERO work and essentially had my choice of who I wanted to go home with virtually every Friday and Saturday night. :lol:
 

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All of your threads are context dependent

But yeah, local status is a trump card

status itself is context dependent
So it's the guy with the biggest status she has access to (ie not usually Il Capo)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.
One problem I had with Rollo was his "Iron Rules" concept. There are always exceptions.

I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
 

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Women are co dependent

Fixed it for you OP
 

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This is kinda silly because EVERYONE is context dependent.

If you are the hottest guy in the world but you grew up in a rural town with no major cities anywhere around, you might date the hottest girl in the town but she might be a 7 compared to you dating 9s in bigger cities.

But you wouldn't know any better because she would be the hottest girl you have available and every other guy would be jealous of you.
 
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