"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women are context dependent

jhonny9546

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Where a woman is, that's where she pairs up.

If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss.

Conversely, if she frequents artistic or intellectual circles, she'll be attracted to someone who has recognized status in those fields.


To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.

You might be tempted to think: "If she hangs out in such a ****ty environment, surrounded by human misery, it's because she enjoys being there!" The answer is: no.

It's true that she probably feels comfortable there. On the other hand, however, it's almost certain that she's there because no one has ever shown her that beyond, other worlds exist... often vastly better ones!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
 

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
I can confirm hot women love DJs. I literally did ZERO work and essentially had my choice of who I wanted to go home with virtually every Friday and Saturday night. :lol:
 

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All of your threads are context dependent

But yeah, local status is a trump card

status itself is context dependent
So it's the guy with the biggest status she has access to (ie not usually Il Capo)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.
One problem I had with Rollo was his "Iron Rules" concept. There are always exceptions.

I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
 

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Women are co dependent

Fixed it for you OP
 

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This is kinda silly because EVERYONE is context dependent.

If you are the hottest guy in the world but you grew up in a rural town with no major cities anywhere around, you might date the hottest girl in the town but she might be a 7 compared to you dating 9s in bigger cities.

But you wouldn't know any better because she would be the hottest girl you have available and every other guy would be jealous of you.
 
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