"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Women are context dependent

jhonny9546

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Where a woman is, that's where she pairs up.

If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss.

Conversely, if she frequents artistic or intellectual circles, she'll be attracted to someone who has recognized status in those fields.


To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.

You might be tempted to think: "If she hangs out in such a ****ty environment, surrounded by human misery, it's because she enjoys being there!" The answer is: no.

It's true that she probably feels comfortable there. On the other hand, however, it's almost certain that she's there because no one has ever shown her that beyond, other worlds exist... often vastly better ones!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
 

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@jhonny9546 "If the environment she frequents is one where drug dealers hang out, she'll be attracted to the one with the highest status among them.

If, on the other hand, she's a club girl, she'll get involved with PR promoters and/or DJs who enjoy high status.

If she lives in Mafia town, she's probably going to be attracted to the local boss"

Next, we'll learn that graduating from Julliard or RADA doesn't automatically = said graduate will snag a profitable career as an actor
I can confirm hot women love DJs. I literally did ZERO work and essentially had my choice of who I wanted to go home with virtually every Friday and Saturday night. :lol:
 

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All of your threads are context dependent

But yeah, local status is a trump card

status itself is context dependent
So it's the guy with the biggest status she has access to (ie not usually Il Capo)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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To me, this is a SCIENTIFIC LAW: where a woman is, that's where she pairs up. There are no exceptions.
One problem I had with Rollo was his "Iron Rules" concept. There are always exceptions.

I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
 

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Women are co dependent

Fixed it for you OP
 

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This is kinda silly because EVERYONE is context dependent.

If you are the hottest guy in the world but you grew up in a rural town with no major cities anywhere around, you might date the hottest girl in the town but she might be a 7 compared to you dating 9s in bigger cities.

But you wouldn't know any better because she would be the hottest girl you have available and every other guy would be jealous of you.
 

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I'm thinking of a scenario where a guy introduces a woman to a new environment - brings the girl into his world.
And maybe he's the high status guy in his world. Then it's doubly exciting for her, because she not only gets the high status guy, she discovers an entirely new world where everything is novel.
Zekko, you have a brilliant mind.
Does this also works in a LTR?

If she lost attraction but you as a man manage to go for your own way and then invite her in this new world where you are high in status.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Maybe you would date a 6 in the bigger city, since that 9 living in a big city, could access more guys?
It goes both ways
Not if you were extremely hot you wouldn't. You would have women falling all over you...or could just go on apps and fvck 5 a day.
 

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If she lost attraction but you as a man manage to go for your own way and then invite her in this new world where you are high in status.
Generally not a good idea to revisit failed relationships (they failed for a reason), but there's no doubt it happens. What you're describing is probably fairly rare though.

I've been watching a lot of these "Stoic" videos lately, and it's funny because the girl will make a mistake, and the stoic guy immediately shuts her down, and these guys almost never give second chances, no matter how much the girl begs and pleads. Usually she makes a pretty bad mistake or display of disrespect though. These guys are depicted as having it together so much, but somehow they always end up dating or married to these incredibly toxic women lol.
 
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