"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are the differences between a female 5/10 & 6/10 subtle to you, or quite large jump in attractiveness?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Attractiveness is relative and tied to constraints of access. If you were confined to a limited environment,( like say just within your neighbourhood or small town), then the best looking girl in town… is the 10 no?
No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
 
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You guys should use the same grading scale video game reviewers use: 10 = masterpiece, 9 = amazing, 8 = great, 7 = good, and 6 = okay. Anything below 6 is unplayable.
A "5" Is an OK looking woman to me. She certainly won't be fat. This is a "5" to me:
She has some good traits and a few flaws that stop her from being a Smoke Siren, Supermodel or Model, that's what makes average. She will be rated maybe a 6 with makeup.. but that's w/makeup enhancing her, not genetics.




4's are "meh" and need 5 months work in a gym and a makeover, or otherwise a bit genetically below average. I wouldn't look twice at a 4 unless she was skinny and put in effort to have a nice personality. 3's and below are the hideous chicks; sloppy, fat, obese, butch, manly. Women like this... I would rate her a 2/10, if not a 1.5/10:



She's repulsive. I'd be annoyed if she hit on me. Like wtf, I'm a 5/10 and healthy weighted, you're obese and a 2/10 at best. Is what i would think.
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But anyway, each guys has his own ranking system. I notice especially among you younger American guys, you consider 5's to be fat/ugly chicks, I do not.

Maybe you see 5's as fat/ugly because it was the "norm" for you growing up? For me, growing up in the 80's and 90's in the UK It wasn't. Rarely you would see a fat young woman attend college/university when I was a young man of drinking age attending college in the mid-late 1990's.
 

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No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
I never said the 300lb landwhale becomes a 10.:rofl:
I meant attractiveness is relative , it’s subjective and there is bias , variance and distortion in any’ beauty scale.’

Attractiveness has ties to culture.
And time period. (The ideal body shape has changed over time ) There’s a lot of aspects to it being ‘relative.’

Even your 5 could maybe be a 6 you say
So there’s relative movement already. Right there.:D
Other examples of issues
-Should chicks be rated looking their best , or most natural ?
-If she was a different ethnicity would you still rate her the same..? black, Asian etc

re the title of the post - a 1 ‘point’ difference is 10% increase.
So it should be subtle per the % increase ..
not a ‘ large jump’ for anyone using the scale.
It’s a redundant question in the title then.

I’d like to see your individual examples for 6,7,8,9,10 btw .just out of curiousity. I find it hard to grade point-to -point personally, there’s so many factors .
 
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This is completely subjective man to man -- although there are probably certain women who would be considered "beautiful" by most if not all men. But yes -- for me this particular difference in the scale is a big one. A 6/10 is typically one I am good to sleep with. A 5/10 I am usually not good to sleep with. Generally, weight is the biggest factor in moving women around the HB scale for me -- with their faces being the second biggest factor. Being over-weight drives women down the scale very quickly for me in terms of my attraction to them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is completely subjective man to man -- although there are probably certain women who would be considered "beautiful" by most if not all men. But yes -- for me this particular difference in the scale is a big one. A 6/10 is typically one I am good to sleep with. A 5/10 I am usually not good to sleep with. Generally, weight is the biggest factor in moving women around the HB scale for me -- with their faces being the second biggest factor. Being over-weight drives women down the scale very quickly for me in terms of my attraction to them.
Just look at history. Even fat noble women lost to a pretty peasant girl. The fact women are so fat today is very abnormal for the human species. Being fat was a last resort for fending against the winter and starvation. Today, they are fat regardless of the safe environment. It is sad. I am seeing so many fat and chubby women that it's making me hate western women more and more. And unfortunately, it has the double effect of inflating the egos of any skinny woman, which makes things worse for the dating market. Basically, women are winning regardless cause there's always a man ready to **** a woman no matter how fat she is. Just look at any fat woman walking around walmart with kids. Someone hit that.
 

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Just look at history. Even fat noble women lost to a pretty peasant girl. The fact women are so fat today is very abnormal for the human species. Being fat was a last resort for fending against the winter and starvation. Today, they are fat regardless of the safe environment. It is sad. I am seeing so many fat and chubby women that it's making me hate western women more and more. And unfortunately, it has the double effect of inflating the egos of any skinny woman, which makes things worse for the dating market. Basically, women are winning regardless cause there's always a man ready to **** a woman no matter how fat she is. Just look at any fat woman walking around walmart with kids. Someone hit that.
I think women would say men have gone wrong too.

Scruffy, unkempt, drink/drugs/prescriptions & still renting in his 30s or 40s, getting a tattoo or PCP car on debt as a sticking plaster to cover up the soyboy.

It's not difficult to be in the top 10-20%.
 
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I never said the 300lb landwhale becomes a 10.:rofl:
I meant attractiveness is relative , it’s subjective and there is bias , variance and distortion in any’ beauty scale.’

Attractiveness has ties to culture.
And time period. (The ideal body shape has changed over time ) There’s a lot of aspects to it being ‘relative.’

Even your 5 could maybe be a 6 you say
So there’s relative movement already. Right there.:D
Other examples of issues
-Should chicks be rated looking their best , or most natural ?
-If she was a different ethnicity would you still rate her the same..? black, Asian etc

re the title of the post - a 1 ‘point’ difference is 10% increase.
So it should be subtle per the % increase ..
not a ‘ large jump’ for anyone using the scale.
It’s a redundant question in the title then.

I’d like to see your individual examples for 6,7,8,9,10 btw .just out of curiousity. I find it hard to grade point-to -point personally, there’s so many factors .
I said my 5/10 example could be rated a 6/10 due to makeup. But thats due to makeup enhancing features - darkening eyebrows, skin foundation, lipstick, mascara. Also a tight dress on a slim body, and spending hours on hair is gonna add to improvement on smv.

Mia Goth with and without makeup. Big difference, eh? Some guys would rate her a 4 without makeup and a 6-7 with makeup. that's a big jump. Men do not have such things to boost SMV like makeup does to women.


 

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I said my 5/10 example could be rated a 6/10 due to makeup. But thats due to makeup enhancing features - darkening eyebrows, skin foundation, lipstick, mascara. Also a tight dress on a slim body, and spending hours on hair is gonna add to improvement on smv.

Mia Goth with and without makeup. Big difference, eh? Some guys would rate her a 4 without makeup and a 6-7 with makeup. that's a big jump. Men do not have such things to boost SMV like makeup does to women.


I generally rate women when they are looking their best mate - and they generally put their best out there right? Then being obsessed with beauty and fashion. And basically never wanting to be seen in trackies , sans make up.

Like on online/apps they really do wonders on their photos with hair, make up, outfits, camera angles, filters /touch ups etc etc.as you know.

as for guys - we should be taking a leaf out of their book and doing the same to boost our own (especially on apps). However we can.

Btw Was that you in that WW dating experiment video? If so have you updated your pics yet.

I see WW has , after taking PWFs tips, and it’s much improved imo. Just sayin..
 
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Btw Was that you in that WW dating experiment video? If so have you updated your pics yet.

I see WW has , after taking PWFs tips, and it’s much improved imo. Just sayin..
No its not me in that WW video. I'm a 48yo man.

Wheat reminds me of myself 20 years ago. He was right to move out of the UK to Poland, the market here in the UK is heavily shifted to allow women to date up in looks.

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No its not me in that WW video. I'm a 48yo man.

Wheat reminds me of myself 20 years ago. He was right to move out of the UK to Poland, the market here in the UK is heavily shifted to allow women to date up in looks.

The data from BP does look pretty bad I have to admit. Im lucky I am a boomer also and lived my best years pre internet .. thats really fvcked society and it’s Its outta control.

re the men settling - is there hard data tho? That men are settling even more in the last decade or whatever , that it’s actually an upward trend?
 
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I think women would say men have gone wrong too.

Scruffy, unkempt, drink/drugs/prescriptions & still renting in his 30s or 40s, getting a tattoo or PCP car on debt as a sticking plaster to cover up the soyboy.

It's not difficult to be in the top 10-20%.
Women are the reason men are broke.

Feminism pushed them into the workforce, driving down wages.
Divorce and child support is a far greater rape case than any woman being ambushed from some imaginary bushes while she was drinking willingly then going to have a threesome with a guy.
Women receive more welfare than men.
Women make money easier than men in other pursuits outside white collar, whether it's gifts or onlyfans.

Society is ran to bleed men dry as cattle while women remain the queens. All because a bunch of guys are afraid to tell women no.
 
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The data from BP does look pretty bad I have to admit. Im lucky I am a boomer also and lived my best years pre internet .. thats really fvcked society and it’s Its outta control.

re the men settling - is there hard data tho? That men are settling even more in the last decade or whatever , that it’s actually an upward trend?
Look at dating apps. A woman who is slim/healthy weighted with an average face gets Goddess & Supermodel treatment on those damn apps, as well as social media. Why would she date a guy in her league when she has 6ft2 Chads with 9/10 looks, or guys in the top 4% of men sliding into her DMs. I'm sure every average guy (non-fat) has created a fake female account with an average woman (non-fat) and then uploaded it to say Hinge, Bumble, Okcupid, tinder etc and it doesn't rain men, it pours. Sometimes 1000+ men in 48 hours. And this is average non-fat chicks, not baddies who are 7+ in Looks.

For slim/fit healthy weight average guys its a desert with no water in sight.

Also just look at couples when you're out at a coffee shop, mall, supermarket etc. Most average men who are healthy weight, slim/thin are with Big women, overweight, obese etc. They are not usually with a Looksmatch, where as it used to be common in the 1990's to see slim average men with slim average girls/women. Do a tally chart. You'll see it.

I did a Tally chart myself a few months back, as well as doing them 5, 10, 20 years ago. 12 : 1 was the amount of couples where the man was a MID or 5/10 (healthy weight) and his GF or wife was fat / below average, like a 2 or 3/10. For every 12 couples like that, there is only 1 couple where the man is fat and his wife or GF is slim or normal weighted. its very common among Gen M and Gen Z.
 

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That's the takeaway that I got from that too. That thread demonstrated how different people are, and I think one of the reasons why people on here butt heads with one another; it's just simply because each person has their own needs and wants.

Sicily Rose is a celebrity, she's currently 20 and I believe she's 18 in this video. I'd say she's my example of 10/10.

Would definitely tap. :up:
 

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I'm sure every average guy (non-fat) has created a fake female account with an average woman (non-fat) and then uploaded it to say Hinge, Bumble, Okcupid, tinder etc and it doesn't rain men, it pours. Sometimes 1000+ men in 48 hours. And this is average non-fat chicks, not baddies who are 7+ in Looks.
LOL, I've done this with PlentyOfFish. I put a very harpy profile there - with the gal saying that she thinks that she deserves getting taken out to dine at a very high-tier restaurants, and I got 200 messages per day, almost all saying that they would have no problem taking her to such a restaurant.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LOL, I've done this with PlentyOfFish. I put a very harpy profile there - with the gal saying that she thinks that she deserves getting taken out to dine at a very high-tier restaurants, and I got 200 messages per day, almost all saying that they would have no problem taking her to such a restaurant.
I once had just a picture of Tree, put her age at 53, and an empty Bio and got 100 men a week message her on POF.

I have created a few accounts of 1/10 looking Morbidly Obese women (like below), put in their bio she's a Welfare Kween with 3 kids, smokes 40 a day, is alcoholic and addicted to McDonalds and had 50+ guys a week message her / reach out. A lot were not fat obese men, but normal looking men. Its absolutely scary.

Simps have ruined everything.


 
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