"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Are the differences between a female 5/10 & 6/10 subtle to you, or quite large jump in attractiveness?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Attractiveness is relative and tied to constraints of access. If you were confined to a limited environment,( like say just within your neighbourhood or small town), then the best looking girl in town… is the 10 no?
No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
 
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You guys should use the same grading scale video game reviewers use: 10 = masterpiece, 9 = amazing, 8 = great, 7 = good, and 6 = okay. Anything below 6 is unplayable.
A "5" Is an OK looking woman to me. She certainly won't be fat. This is a "5" to me:
She has some good traits and a few flaws that stop her from being a Smoke Siren, Supermodel or Model, that's what makes average. She will be rated maybe a 6 with makeup.. but that's w/makeup enhancing her, not genetics.




4's are "meh" and need 5 months work in a gym and a makeover, or otherwise a bit genetically below average. I wouldn't look twice at a 4 unless she was skinny and put in effort to have a nice personality. 3's and below are the hideous chicks; sloppy, fat, obese, butch, manly. Women like this... I would rate her a 2/10, if not a 1.5/10:



She's repulsive. I'd be annoyed if she hit on me. Like wtf, I'm a 5/10 and healthy weighted, you're obese and a 2/10 at best. Is what i would think.
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But anyway, each guys has his own ranking system. I notice especially among you younger American guys, you consider 5's to be fat/ugly chicks, I do not.

Maybe you see 5's as fat/ugly because it was the "norm" for you growing up? For me, growing up in the 80's and 90's in the UK It wasn't. Rarely you would see a fat young woman attend college/university when I was a young man of drinking age attending college in the mid-late 1990's.
 

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No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
I never said the 300lb landwhale becomes a 10.:rofl:
I meant attractiveness is relative , it’s subjective and there is bias , variance and distortion in any’ beauty scale.’

Attractiveness has ties to culture.
And time period. (The ideal body shape has changed over time ) There’s a lot of aspects to it being ‘relative.’

Even your 5 could maybe be a 6 you say
So there’s relative movement already. Right there.:D
Other examples of issues
-Should chicks be rated looking their best , or most natural ?
-If she was a different ethnicity would you still rate her the same..? black, Asian etc

re the title of the post - a 1 ‘point’ difference is 10% increase.
So it should be subtle per the % increase ..
not a ‘ large jump’ for anyone using the scale.
It’s a redundant question in the title then.

I’d like to see your individual examples for 6,7,8,9,10 btw .just out of curiousity. I find it hard to grade point-to -point personally, there’s so many factors .
 
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This is completely subjective man to man -- although there are probably certain women who would be considered "beautiful" by most if not all men. But yes -- for me this particular difference in the scale is a big one. A 6/10 is typically one I am good to sleep with. A 5/10 I am usually not good to sleep with. Generally, weight is the biggest factor in moving women around the HB scale for me -- with their faces being the second biggest factor. Being over-weight drives women down the scale very quickly for me in terms of my attraction to them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is completely subjective man to man -- although there are probably certain women who would be considered "beautiful" by most if not all men. But yes -- for me this particular difference in the scale is a big one. A 6/10 is typically one I am good to sleep with. A 5/10 I am usually not good to sleep with. Generally, weight is the biggest factor in moving women around the HB scale for me -- with their faces being the second biggest factor. Being over-weight drives women down the scale very quickly for me in terms of my attraction to them.
Just look at history. Even fat noble women lost to a pretty peasant girl. The fact women are so fat today is very abnormal for the human species. Being fat was a last resort for fending against the winter and starvation. Today, they are fat regardless of the safe environment. It is sad. I am seeing so many fat and chubby women that it's making me hate western women more and more. And unfortunately, it has the double effect of inflating the egos of any skinny woman, which makes things worse for the dating market. Basically, women are winning regardless cause there's always a man ready to **** a woman no matter how fat she is. Just look at any fat woman walking around walmart with kids. Someone hit that.
 

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Just look at history. Even fat noble women lost to a pretty peasant girl. The fact women are so fat today is very abnormal for the human species. Being fat was a last resort for fending against the winter and starvation. Today, they are fat regardless of the safe environment. It is sad. I am seeing so many fat and chubby women that it's making me hate western women more and more. And unfortunately, it has the double effect of inflating the egos of any skinny woman, which makes things worse for the dating market. Basically, women are winning regardless cause there's always a man ready to **** a woman no matter how fat she is. Just look at any fat woman walking around walmart with kids. Someone hit that.
I think women would say men have gone wrong too.

Scruffy, unkempt, drink/drugs/prescriptions & still renting in his 30s or 40s, getting a tattoo or PCP car on debt as a sticking plaster to cover up the soyboy.

It's not difficult to be in the top 10-20%.
 
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I never said the 300lb landwhale becomes a 10.:rofl:
I meant attractiveness is relative , it’s subjective and there is bias , variance and distortion in any’ beauty scale.’

Attractiveness has ties to culture.
And time period. (The ideal body shape has changed over time ) There’s a lot of aspects to it being ‘relative.’

Even your 5 could maybe be a 6 you say
So there’s relative movement already. Right there.:D
Other examples of issues
-Should chicks be rated looking their best , or most natural ?
-If she was a different ethnicity would you still rate her the same..? black, Asian etc

re the title of the post - a 1 ‘point’ difference is 10% increase.
So it should be subtle per the % increase ..
not a ‘ large jump’ for anyone using the scale.
It’s a redundant question in the title then.

I’d like to see your individual examples for 6,7,8,9,10 btw .just out of curiousity. I find it hard to grade point-to -point personally, there’s so many factors .
I said my 5/10 example could be rated a 6/10 due to makeup. But thats due to makeup enhancing features - darkening eyebrows, skin foundation, lipstick, mascara. Also a tight dress on a slim body, and spending hours on hair is gonna add to improvement on smv.

Mia Goth with and without makeup. Big difference, eh? Some guys would rate her a 4 without makeup and a 6-7 with makeup. that's a big jump. Men do not have such things to boost SMV like makeup does to women.


 

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I said my 5/10 example could be rated a 6/10 due to makeup. But thats due to makeup enhancing features - darkening eyebrows, skin foundation, lipstick, mascara. Also a tight dress on a slim body, and spending hours on hair is gonna add to improvement on smv.

Mia Goth with and without makeup. Big difference, eh? Some guys would rate her a 4 without makeup and a 6-7 with makeup. that's a big jump. Men do not have such things to boost SMV like makeup does to women.


I generally rate women when they are looking their best mate - and they generally put their best out there right? Then being obsessed with beauty and fashion. And basically never wanting to be seen in trackies , sans make up.

Like on online/apps they really do wonders on their photos with hair, make up, outfits, camera angles, filters /touch ups etc etc.as you know.

as for guys - we should be taking a leaf out of their book and doing the same to boost our own (especially on apps). However we can.

Btw Was that you in that WW dating experiment video? If so have you updated your pics yet.

I see WW has , after taking PWFs tips, and it’s much improved imo. Just sayin..
 
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Btw Was that you in that WW dating experiment video? If so have you updated your pics yet.

I see WW has , after taking PWFs tips, and it’s much improved imo. Just sayin..
No its not me in that WW video. I'm a 48yo man.

Wheat reminds me of myself 20 years ago. He was right to move out of the UK to Poland, the market here in the UK is heavily shifted to allow women to date up in looks.

 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No its not me in that WW video. I'm a 48yo man.

Wheat reminds me of myself 20 years ago. He was right to move out of the UK to Poland, the market here in the UK is heavily shifted to allow women to date up in looks.

The data from BP does look pretty bad I have to admit. Im lucky I am a boomer also and lived my best years pre internet .. thats really fvcked society and it’s Its outta control.

re the men settling - is there hard data tho? That men are settling even more in the last decade or whatever , that it’s actually an upward trend?
 
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