"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are the differences between a female 5/10 & 6/10 subtle to you, or quite large jump in attractiveness?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Attractiveness is relative and tied to constraints of access. If you were confined to a limited environment,( like say just within your neighbourhood or small town), then the best looking girl in town… is the 10 no?
No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
 
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You guys should use the same grading scale video game reviewers use: 10 = masterpiece, 9 = amazing, 8 = great, 7 = good, and 6 = okay. Anything below 6 is unplayable.
A "5" Is an OK looking woman to me. She certainly won't be fat. This is a "5" to me:
She has some good traits and a few flaws that stop her from being a Smoke Siren, Supermodel or Model, that's what makes average. She will be rated maybe a 6 with makeup.. but that's w/makeup enhancing her, not genetics.




4's are "meh" and need 5 months work in a gym and a makeover, or otherwise a bit genetically below average. I wouldn't look twice at a 4 unless she was skinny and put in effort to have a nice personality. 3's and below are the hideous chicks; sloppy, fat, obese, butch, manly. Women like this... I would rate her a 2/10, if not a 1.5/10:



She's repulsive. I'd be annoyed if she hit on me. Like wtf, I'm a 5/10 and healthy weighted, you're obese and a 2/10 at best. Is what i would think.
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But anyway, each guys has his own ranking system. I notice especially among you younger American guys, you consider 5's to be fat/ugly chicks, I do not.

Maybe you see 5's as fat/ugly because it was the "norm" for you growing up? For me, growing up in the 80's and 90's in the UK It wasn't. Rarely you would see a fat young woman attend college/university when I was a young man of drinking age attending college in the mid-late 1990's.
 

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No, because ugliness is global. A 300lbs Landwhale will disgust you, even if that's all that's available in your locale. The landwhale with the longest hair doesn't become a "10" if all the others have short hair. She's still a 2/10 > 1/10.

Evolution will take tens of thousands of years. Your ancestors preferred fit, slim, active young women who could forage for berries and food, collect crops, walk 2 miles to a water well/source and 2 miles back each day. Thats why today most of us prefer that slim-fit look/build and youthful mothers means healthier babies with less chance of defects.

People like you a weird man.
I never said the 300lb landwhale becomes a 10.:rofl:
I meant attractiveness is relative , it’s subjective and there is bias , variance and distortion in any’ beauty scale.’

Attractiveness has ties to culture.
And time period. (The ideal body shape has changed over time ) There’s a lot of aspects to it being ‘relative.’

Even your 5 could maybe be a 6 you say
So there’s relative movement already. Right there.:D
Other examples of issues
-Should chicks be rated looking their best , or most natural ?
-If she was a different ethnicity would you still rate her the same..? black, Asian etc

re the title of the post - a 1 ‘point’ difference is 10% increase.
So it should be subtle per the % increase ..
not a ‘ large jump’ for anyone using the scale.
It’s a redundant question in the title then.

I’d like to see your individual examples for 6,7,8,9,10 btw .just out of curiousity. I find it hard to grade point-to -point personally, there’s so many factors .
 
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This is completely subjective man to man -- although there are probably certain women who would be considered "beautiful" by most if not all men. But yes -- for me this particular difference in the scale is a big one. A 6/10 is typically one I am good to sleep with. A 5/10 I am usually not good to sleep with. Generally, weight is the biggest factor in moving women around the HB scale for me -- with their faces being the second biggest factor. Being over-weight drives women down the scale very quickly for me in terms of my attraction to them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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