"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I put myself in an odd situation...

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl can sense onitis, they can see attraction, but attraction with no action is crispy. All the action is right hand action, that's the way they see it, and it weirds them out.
 
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gh0st_meth0d said:
It has stuck for a long time - the anger really lasted 3 weeks, after that it became a necessary change for myself. It is still a habit, I'm out running 3 times per week at least, sometimes 4. Heck - I went through 3 pairs of running shoes in last 6 months. I started with walking about 80km weekly.

The route I take remains largely the same but now I do intervals of running and walking - no stopping until I reach the 5k mark at least.

This is still all new to me, but I am adapting to it well for someone who was overweight 6 months ago. I am doing it for myself and I did admit that it didn't start off that way and I also enjoy running now. She is still around, but I treat her like anyone else if I see her. I stopped auditioning for her the way I see it now.

She showed me very clearly she wants nothing to do with me when she ghosted me that one morning. Her presence never bothered me (even after that) but at the same time I will not be the one to break the ice.
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Running is fine, but start lifting weights otherwise you are burning as much muscle as fat.
 
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Running is fine, but start lifting weights otherwise you are burning as much muscle as fat.
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That is what this week coming up is for - next 2 actually. Easing back into the gym routine. Running was purely for weight loss. I took my entire vacation at once and will use it to build a sustainable gym routine. I will still continue to run especially since I really do enjoy it now. And I am definitely back to my old self. Saw a girl check me out today and she was not shy about it at all, looked at me smiled, brushed her hair back, so I approached and started talking to her. Turns out she lives a few blocks away from me. I got her number, and we are going out on Saturday. :) That right there goes to one of the very first replies to this whole thread: When a woman is truly interested, she won't hide it or play hard to get, or provide ambiguous answers. She will just say yes.

I have a set of dumbbells at home too, pre-assembled with plates, but I only have 50lb total to work with. No bench at home, don't need it as I focus on arms and shoulders at home already.
 
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That is what this week coming up is for - next 2 actually. Easing back into the gym routine. Running was purely for weight loss. I took my entire vacation at once and will use it to build a sustainable gym routine. I will still continue to run especially since I really do enjoy it now. And I am definitely back to my old self. Saw a girl check me out today and she was not shy about it at all, looked at me smiled, brushed her hair back, so I approached and started talking to her. Turns out she lives a few blocks away from me. I got her number, and we are going out on Saturday. :) That right there goes to one of the very first replies to this whole thread: When a woman is truly interested, she won't hide it or play hard to get, or provide ambiguous answers. She will just say yes.

I have a set of dumbbells at home too, pre-assembled with plates, but I only have 50lb total to work with. No bench at home, don't need it as I focus on arms and shoulders at home already.
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Well, I hate to tell you this but weight lifting is more effective for fat loss than running.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It comes down what you enjoy more at the moment as well - right now this felt right. But I get your point - weight lifting builds muscle - muscle burns fat. It's as simple as that. But for me, do push/pull exercises on a sled progressively for an hour when I go, and that will be starting up again soon.
 
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