"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jesse Pinkman's approach/field reports thread.

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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@SW15

I am not sure as to why the mall in my area is more quality on Tuesday and Thursday. The thing is that my area is more suburban but there are a lot of hot women there. It is not conductive for a PUA to go there because if you spam approach like 90% of guys doing cold approach do, you will stick out and make a fool of yourself. Security is patrolling the area often and there are a lot of cops nearby too since it is a wealthier part (even though it is boring). Demographic skews older and a lot of the younger party animals opt for Brickell or South Beach if they can.

The area has an advantage in the sense that PUAs do not bother with it since it is not as volume heavy. Security is constantly around so anyone spam approaching would be spotted fast and get in trouble. For someone who is more about the quality of the approach and less about the quantity, it is ideal.
hey Jesse! Like your thread. Was wondering why you seem so focused on security though? from experience doesn't seem to be a huge issue esp. in a daytime situation of people talking to woman or even actively hitting on them.
 

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hey Jesse! Like your thread. Was wondering why you seem so focused on security though? from experience doesn't seem to be a huge issue esp. in a daytime situation of people talking to woman or even actively hitting on them.
Depends. If you are the aggressive PUA type or a newbie that spams, security will notice. I have learned to make friends and small talk with them so now they are on my side more often than not.
 

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Depends. If you are the aggressive PUA type or a newbie that spams, security will notice. I have learned to make friends and small talk with them so now they are on my side more often than not.
Don't give away too many samples Jesse. This is getting to be an issue.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Depends. If you are the aggressive PUA type or a newbie that spams, security will notice. I have learned to make friends and small talk with them so now they are on my side more often than not.
I think regardless if you are going to similar places for a few hours even once a month or twice a month, you will "be noticed'. you act like it's a bad thing fundamentally, which I disagree with to talk to woman/people you want to. but yes spam approaching or aggressive PUA is not good in general anyway.

And kinda disagree on making friends/small talk w them.. idk just my view. That just leads to them trying to talk to you every time you go out.
 

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I think regardless if you are going to similar places for a few hours even once a month or twice a month, you will "be noticed'. you act like it's a bad thing fundamentally, which I disagree with to talk to woman/people you want to. but yes spam approaching or aggressive PUA is not good in general anyway.

And kinda disagree on making friends/small talk w them.. idk just my view. That just leads to them trying to talk to you every time you go out.
I don't see guards talking to you as a bad thing. If anything, you are a familiar face and come off as a lot more vetted compared to being a weirdo that is lurking around for p*ssy. Being noticed is a bad thing IF you are only noticed for cold approaching. In a small enough venue or neighborhood, you will eventually become "that guy" and women will know that you do that to everyone. Not the place you want to be.
 

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If you are the aggressive PUA type or a newbie that spams, security will notice. I have learned to make friends and small talk with them so now they are on my side more often than not.
Mall security never noticed me when I did mall approaches. I only did a few approaches per session on weekends, which were busy times. It's difficult to stand out in a mall on a weekend.
 

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Mall security never noticed me when I did mall approaches. I only did a few approaches per session on weekends, which were busy times. It's difficult to stand out in a mall on a weekend.
Depends on the size of the mall. If it is a smaller mall, it is easy to stick out. I have known guys who have been banned from malls in places like Aventura here because the owner specifically wants PUAs gone.
 

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I don't see guards talking to you as a bad thing. If anything, you are a familiar face and come off as a lot more vetted compared to being a weirdo that is lurking around for p*ssy. Being noticed is a bad thing IF you are only noticed for cold approaching. In a small enough venue or neighborhood, you will eventually become "that guy" and women will know that you do that to everyone. Not the place you want to be.
that's a good point, didn't think of it like that. of course you don't wan tot be "that guy" but you must be in some super small malls then idk. especially in Miami not sure how that's possible

I do think talking to guards is bad thing IF you are going to that venue say every weekend once a week for a few hours or so. just kinda.. weird
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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that's a good point, didn't think of it like that. of course you don't wan tot be "that guy" but you must be in some super small malls then idk. especially in Miami not sure how that's possible

I do think talking to guards is bad thing IF you are going to that venue say every weekend once a week for a few hours or so. just kinda.. weird
Not weird at all, you should learn to build rapport and socialize rather than coming off as some PUA Hound. As I said, the guards on your side can really help out with sticky situations. One of my old daygame wings was cool with the guards at one massive mall and when some girl's boyfriend confronted him, the guards had his back and were okay with him doing game (all the guards were black tho so there was that).

Miami has plenty of small malls dude, it is not all Miami beach lol.
 

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1/26/23

Got back into it slowly with game today although I was not getting good sleep the night before. Doctor has me on a supplement (Vit D) and tbh, I feel like it has not really been doing that much for me. Day 3 of NoFap and I feel like there has been no difference. Work also started off hectic as my boss seems to be super stressed out from where the company is going and we let 10 people go this week! WTF, I very recently started this job too.

However, went out to a local mall during lunch to get some coffee and some sun by walking outside.

Approach 1

I felt so low energy, cannot even describe why. The Vitamin D must be f-cking me up. I hear you need to take K with it or something. Waiting in line for coffee and see this girl with black hair and a yankees hat along with her dog. I open commenting on the dog being a Spaniel but she said it was a Labdoodle (did not look like it). Ask her "so from NY or just a huge yankees fan?". She said from NY and then I get called to get my coffee.

Get my coffee and as I am re-engaging, approach her again. Tells me she is from Buffalo and we have small talk over it. Shake her hand as we introduce ourselves but I do not do more than that. I mean wtf, I guess it was work stress but this seems like an opportunity I could have done way more with. Get back to work.

Approach 2

Approach was after work, went out for a walk. See a blonde sitting down and taking selfies on a couch at the mall I am at. I end up walking around to see if other sets were there. They were not. I approach the blonde by walking in front of her selfie but pause, ask her if I am stopping the shoot and she says no. She was Russian so I ask her how the selfies are going.

This girl talked very softly, like she had that Russian accent and I could barely understand her at times. She says she is living in Ft. Lauderdale but is visiting Miami for the week. So she goes to LA in a month to live there a month, guess prime pickings for @LucianoM lol. Anyways, we keep chatting but man this girl must be speaking intentionally soft because I cannot hear everything she is saying. Then she gives me her IG and follows me back. We chat a bit more and I walk away.

Not even gonna count this for a close, my game was off and wack today but glad I got back out there.
 

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Got back into it slowly with game today although I was not getting good sleep the night before. Doctor has me on a supplement (Vit D) and tbh, I feel like it has not really been doing that much for me. Day 3 of NoFap and I feel like there has been no difference. Work also started off hectic as my boss seems to be super stressed out from where the company is going and we let 10 people go this week! WTF, I very recently started this job too.

However, went out to a local mall during lunch to get some coffee and some sun by walking outside.

Approach 1

I felt so low energy, cannot even describe why. The Vitamin D must be f-cking me up. I hear you need to take K with it or something. Waiting in line for coffee and see this girl with black hair and a yankees hat along with her dog. I open commenting on the dog being a Spaniel but she said it was a Labdoodle (did not look like it). Ask her "so from NY or just a huge yankees fan?". She said from NY and then I get called to get my coffee.

Get my coffee and as I am re-engaging, approach her again. Tells me she is from Buffalo and we have small talk over it. Shake her hand as we introduce ourselves but I do not do more than that. I mean wtf, I guess it was work stress but this seems like an opportunity I could have done way more with. Get back to work.

Approach 2

Approach was after work, went out for a walk. See a blonde sitting down and taking selfies on a couch at the mall I am at. I end up walking around to see if other sets were there. They were not. I approach the blonde by walking in front of her selfie but pause, ask her if I am stopping the shoot and she says no. She was Russian so I ask her how the selfies are going.

This girl talked very softly, like she had that Russian accent and I could barely understand her at times. She says she is living in Ft. Lauderdale but is visiting Miami for the week. So she goes to LA in a month to live there a month, guess prime pickings for @LucianoM lol. Anyways, we keep chatting but man this girl must be speaking intentionally soft because I cannot hear everything she is saying. Then she gives me her IG and follows me back. We chat a bit more and I walk away.

Not even gonna count this for a close, my game was off and wack today but glad I got back out there.
Magnesium with D or else the body does not absorb. And d is not giving you lethargy. however if your in the mood to really make the best use of it take 5,000 IU a day with 700mg magnesium and 1200+mg omega 3 fish oil.
 

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Magnesium with D or else the body does not absorb. And d is not giving you lethargy. however if your in the mood to really make the best use of it take 5,000 IU a day with 700mg magnesium and 1200+mg omega 3 fish oil.
I plan on getting magnesium from food though. Already making Chia Pudding this week to get some of it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not weird at all, you should learn to build rapport and socialize rather than coming off as some PUA Hound. As I said, the guards on your side can really help out with sticky situations. One of my old daygame wings was cool with the guards at one massive mall and when some girl's boyfriend confronted him, the guards had his back and were okay with him doing game (all the guards were black tho so there was that).

Miami has plenty of small malls dude, it is not all Miami beach lol.
I don't think there should be any scenario where a girls bf is confronting you or etc..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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