I am a new member of this forum and the whole manosphere, discovered the red pill at 21 after being cheated on, for the past year I have been constantly improving myself physically, mentally and career wise but seem to have hit a roadblock now. After reading the Rational Male, I realised I've been a complete beta all my life mainly because of my up brining by two elder sisters, a very dominant mother and beta father, I've had to re-learn everything about social dynamics and gender roles from a masculine POV and now I can't understand how to transform myself into more of an alpha mindset and rid myself completely of the old feminine thought process. I need help from you fellow men and learned members, suggestions and guidance from you will help me a lot.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to transform
- Thread starter DUNZ407
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Grounded eagle
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It all starts within.Before you can change all those things you need to change the way you think about yourself. You know better now,you know all the machinations that have been put in place to dampen your innate masculinity. You know the means and the methods,you probably see them in your interactions with women and other men too. You see it in the societal norms you’ve been subject to all your life.Your new found awareness is the most important thing for you on your journey to the fulfillment of your potential now that your eyes have been opened to them.Calibrate it to better suit your circumstances,because no two guys have the same circumstances.It will take some time, but it will be worth it in the end.
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Don't expect anything to happen overnight.
It's gonna be a grind. Day in day out.
Take a pen and paper, write down where you want your life to be.
Take a step. A baby step. Just one. We believe in you.
It's gonna be a grind. Day in day out.
Take a pen and paper, write down where you want your life to be.
Take a step. A baby step. Just one. We believe in you.
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You can’t think your way into transforming into a “alpha” as you say. I recommend learning self defense, that’s a good medium to confidence and will power. Go do boxing for 6mo 3x a week, come back and report.
Yes, I am starting Jiu jitsu and self-defence training from next month.
So is it like - if I chase that specific mindset, it'll move further away from me and the only way of attaining it is if I work on all the other areas, that I'm currently falling short in?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thanks for the reply brother, will do this right now.
Thanks for the suggestions man, I have always identified when I'm deviating from "the masculine path" during my interactions but never understood what to make of that feeling. Now I'm actively observing these deflections and finding out the root cause of each one of them, but im just baffled as to the frequency i keep finding these deflections, it's like 90% of my behaviour was moulded to suit the feminine perspective my myself.
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taiyuu_otoko
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Expect it to take as long, and getting in really good shape or even learning another language.
It's not something you get from reading a book.
Practice social skills and things like public speaking.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.