I am a new member of this forum and the whole manosphere, discovered the red pill at 21 after being cheated on, for the past year I have been constantly improving myself physically, mentally and career wise but seem to have hit a roadblock now. After reading the Rational Male, I realised I've been a complete beta all my life mainly because of my up brining by two elder sisters, a very dominant mother and beta father, I've had to re-learn everything about social dynamics and gender roles from a masculine POV and now I can't understand how to transform myself into more of an alpha mindset and rid myself completely of the old feminine thought process. I need help from you fellow men and learned members, suggestions and guidance from you will help me a lot.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How to transform
- Thread starter DUNZ407
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Grounded eagle
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It all starts within.Before you can change all those things you need to change the way you think about yourself. You know better now,you know all the machinations that have been put in place to dampen your innate masculinity. You know the means and the methods,you probably see them in your interactions with women and other men too. You see it in the societal norms you’ve been subject to all your life.Your new found awareness is the most important thing for you on your journey to the fulfillment of your potential now that your eyes have been opened to them.Calibrate it to better suit your circumstances,because no two guys have the same circumstances.It will take some time, but it will be worth it in the end.
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Don't expect anything to happen overnight.
It's gonna be a grind. Day in day out.
Take a pen and paper, write down where you want your life to be.
Take a step. A baby step. Just one. We believe in you.
It's gonna be a grind. Day in day out.
Take a pen and paper, write down where you want your life to be.
Take a step. A baby step. Just one. We believe in you.
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You can’t think your way into transforming into a “alpha” as you say. I recommend learning self defense, that’s a good medium to confidence and will power. Go do boxing for 6mo 3x a week, come back and report.
Yes, I am starting Jiu jitsu and self-defence training from next month.
So is it like - if I chase that specific mindset, it'll move further away from me and the only way of attaining it is if I work on all the other areas, that I'm currently falling short in?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks for the reply brother, will do this right now.
Thanks for the suggestions man, I have always identified when I'm deviating from "the masculine path" during my interactions but never understood what to make of that feeling. Now I'm actively observing these deflections and finding out the root cause of each one of them, but im just baffled as to the frequency i keep finding these deflections, it's like 90% of my behaviour was moulded to suit the feminine perspective my myself.
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taiyuu_otoko
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Expect it to take as long, and getting in really good shape or even learning another language.
It's not something you get from reading a book.
Practice social skills and things like public speaking.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.