Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What are you guys’ standards like?

TheCharmingGuy

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Hey, I was wondering about what guys’ standards for women are these days. Mine are pretty basic.

1. At least a 7/10
2. Within 3 years of my age
3. Not afraid to have sex (although I understand waiting until after a few dates, etc.)
4. Not a jerk, idiot, or Karen
5. Not possessive
6. Sense of humor
7. Not super long distance


And that’s about it! Once again, these are pretty basic, but I don’t think I’m super picky. Is there anything you guys disagree with, or something you would add? Any strange requirements that you have for women? Strangest requirement that you’ve ever heard of? Is there any quality in a woman that makes you immediately say “no”? Comment down below because I’m curious.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FlexpertHamilton

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Younger than 25
Attractive
Not a psycho
Lives close by
 

Barrister

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6+/10 (to date); 7.5+/10 (long term plate/LTR)
Non-smoker
Relatively fit (bonus points if physically active)
Less than 30 miles from me
Non-Cluster B personality
Relatively intelligent; not an idiot
My age or younger (less than 34)

I will avoid any woman who either hates children or is very bad with children. Not because I want to necessarily have any more kids but because this typically hints at major red flags personality wise.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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derby1

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I know we don't advocate LTR's with single moms, But i'd like to confirm if a woman has no children past 28, shes a fully fledged empty vessel Narc.

I've never met a childless woman who's LTR material in her 30s.

Also any mention of D.V from past male partners, (plot twist : shes the problem)
 

Georgepithyou

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No tattoos
Good conversationalist
Extroverted
Wears dresses or skirts (doesn't dress like a man)
Kind and nurturing
Long hair
Fit or atleast thin
Good relationship with her father
Knows basic domestic skills like cooking and cleaning
 

Velasco

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pretty face/smile
olive skin
gets my sense of humor
under 5'7"
flexible
no stomach rolls / hard abs
big jiggly ass
 

Desdinova

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If she's not a fvck n' toss, then she's required to have these:

- Age 23 or under
- Less than 4 sexual partners
- No tattoos
- No orbiters
- No bad habits (drugs, alcohol, spending)
- No kids
- Feminine
- Submissive
- Willing to match my demand for loyalty and respect

That's already a high demand list in comparison to all the other trashy bytches walking around. If she can't meet any of that, then she's not long term material.

Met my GF when she was 20. She pursued me for two years. I've now been with her for five. All of the above requirements have led to success.
 

TheProspect

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For an LTR/mother/wife?

Two things come to mind, while both are really vague, they pretty much encompass everything:
1. Someone whose company I would enjoy (and benefits me) beyond just sex.
2. Someone I wouldn't mind if my future daughter (if I had one) grew up to emulate.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FlexpertHamilton

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Oh yeah I forgot to add no smoke/weed or drugs or addiction to any alcohol because I don’t really have time for that.
How would that even effect you?
 

zinc4

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Hey, I was wondering about what guys’ standards for women are these days. Mine are pretty basic.

1. At least a 7/10
2. Within 3 years of my age
3. Not afraid to have sex (although I understand waiting until after a few dates, etc.)
4. Not a jerk, idiot, or Karen
5. Not possessive
6. Sense of humor
7. Not super long distance


And that’s about it! Once again, these are pretty basic, but I don’t think I’m super picky. Is there anything you guys disagree with, or something you would add? Any strange requirements that you have for women? Strangest requirement that you’ve ever heard of? Is there any quality in a woman that makes you immediately say “no”? Comment down below because I’m curious.

For relationship? At least a solid 7 looks wise. No blondes nor black chicks. Takes care of herself diet and health wise. Not a slut. Not a smoker. Not a big drinker. No tatoos.

Is a free thinker and nice person. Two very important but very rare attributes in a woman. I also prefer women who have a religion and believe in something. And no single mothers.
 
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Kotaix

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Good relationship with her father, no children, not a mindless sjw. Must be local

Looks wise she needs to be slim and have a nice smile. I don't really go for relationships with women who are over a 7, they're not worth it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lost_blackbird

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I've sat here for ten minutes thinking about this and I can't really come up with anything.
I don't think I've ever really chosen a female, nor pursued one. I'm so fvcking sh1t at this stuff.
 

firstbornunicorn

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For wife material, this is checklist I run them through.

It's not by order of importance, it's all required.
  • Cute and feminine
  • Loyal
  • Kind
  • Not insecure
  • Smart
    • Working on master’s or Phd
    • Ambitious
  • Very fit, similar level to me
    • Into some type of sport: climbing, running, cycling, swimming, etc
  • Likes the outdoors, camping, hikes, etc
  • Good family relationships
    • Good relationship with her dad
  • Plays a musical instrument
  • Not constantly on her phone or social media
  • Doesn’t take relationship or politics advice from tiktok
  • “Low maintenance”
  • 4-8 years younger
  • No tattoos.
  • No drugs
  • No smoking
  • No snus
  • Eats clean
  • Little or no alcohol
  • Wants kids
 

Romanemp22

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Very good looking
Lives close
Submissive and respectfull
Knows how to fvck and cook too
Not a psycho b1tch

Thats for ltr, if it's for just fvcking than it's only good looking and not a psycho.
 

Grinderman

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I don't really go for relationships with women who are over a 7, they're not worth it
Can you elaborate on this my good man? This makes no sense to me whatsoever. From my experience her looks don't determine whether she was brought up to have values and integrity.

This is wise. More guys should heed this advice.
I don't get your mentality here nor your advice that other guys should only date (ltr) 6's. Would you mind elaborating on your perspective here my good man.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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