As a forum veteran, I expected more from OP.
Everything I have seen indicates that looks are everything, followed by social status, i.e. money which goes hand in hand.
I have seen so many witty, genuinely funny and interesting guys fail over and over again with women, and braindead better looking ones that can literally only speak 2 consecutive sentences of coherent thoughts have women throw themselves at them.
The OP's monologue is all theory and does not correspond with the contemporary status of today's youth. I don't know how old he is, but I can assume he is not dating girls in the 18-24 range.
These guys were not bad looking by any means. They work out and dress well, maximize themselves somewhat. But you can only do so much to overcome genetics, i.e. bad height, frame, face, whatever.
"Everything I have seen indicates..."
The precise point of my thread is to open
some of you guys' eyes to perceive that everything you have seen is a limited (by age and little experience) view of the actual reality that a more seasoned, experienced man like myself sees and leverages to his advantage. You are one of the ones who cannot yet see it.
You have seen many "witty, genuinely funny and interesting" guys fail with women. That's because they are that way according to your own sensibilites, not to women's. I assure you, they project absolutely no wit and no humor, and elicit no interest from women. They have no idea how to give women the necessary tingles. Their wit, humor, and way of talking falls on deaf ears when it comes to the opposite sex. This should be obvious as you say they are good-looking.
Most of my writings are not geared to todays youth at all, but rather to men who are emerging from the simplicity of youth to deeper, more nuanced truths. To such young men, my offerings are noise and cannot take hold in any way.
Even though I'm only 25, I have hung out with enough older men to have picked up on these deeper truths.
Personally I despise meaningless, pie in the sky theory. I'm a man of nuts and bolts. I do what works in real life. I've turned myself from an absolute, miserable loser with women to a man who has zero concerns about attraction. Those problems are long-gone because I've learned to recognize and leverage how the game works.
The nutshell of this thread is that when a man maximizes his looks, he can cross that off as a barrier to entry and can hone his interpersonal skills with women to great effect and enjoy a life of abundance, whereas before he thought himself universally rejected solely on looks. Of course there is also the practical point that once one has done what he can, it is pointless and self-defeating to ruminate over deficiencies. Women can most definitely sense when a man owns exactly the way he is. This means a lot to them because women always have at least one thing (and usually several things) about themselves that they hate and they recognize and admire when a man is comfortable in his own skin regardless of deficiencies.
Men, here's an incredibly important maxim: Women believe about you exactly what you believe about yourself. They pick up on your self-perception and they adapt that as objective truth. Remember what I said up above:
Projection is everything. Your projection of self-respect overrides her subjective opinion based on looks. If a man speaks in a way that gives her excitement, her brain will assign a MUCH higher looks rating. Her brain will suppress traits that would normally bother her and will simultaneously amplify his good traits.
This is no pie in the sky theory, pal. This is what turned my life around with women and eventually scored me a woman with stunningly good looks and a quality character to match. Zero drama, zero tests. One might say I hit the lottery. I say I took the hammer and chisel to myself and relentlessly and painfully chipped away to forge a decent, desirable man out of a total confused loser.
