Merry Christmas Atom and the soon to be Missus
An interesting topic certainly. I’d say it is about PROJECTION as in how a man presents himself, but I’m interested in a face guy as well. Call me spoiled. I can be approached by the coolest cat in the room, and his vibe & presentation are on point, but if I don’t find his look handsome from the neck up? I’m out. But I will say I’m a little unusual in that regard.
I think I select for a man I will look well matched with appearance wise and I think I do this subconsciously. That has to do with the fact that I’m objectively very attractive myself and I seek someone at or above my own level. I cannot stand being drooled over, supplicated to, or pedestalized. Ugh. I want a man who can take or leave me, as that’s the only sort that can keep me in line...granted I want a man who treats me well and who I can spoil, but I prefer a man who has options. That is a man who isn’t intimidated by the fact that I have options. We choose each other and that’s by choice...
And these are without exception very good looking men, who also present/project well and know how to handle women.
For the majority of women (who haven’t been as spoiled and who don’t understand men as well as I do)...I concur with your premise. But there are outliers.
I am an outlier.
Cheers