Ex-neighbour, how would you approach?

[user252009]

I used to live in a different part of the city, next door to a hot neighbour. We didn't interact too much then (I lived there for 2 years), but the few times we did, she seemed really nice, and obvs pretty hot. When I moved out, I left a bottle of wine I'd had left and her roommate gave it to her (as she was still sleeping). I knew she was on FB as one situation revealed back then, so I sent her a message in the sense of "hoping the bottle of wine reached you", and she just replied today, as she only saw the message now (we're not connected there yet). I'd smash this girl, so I was wondering how you guys would approach it - suggesting coffee first, after reconnecting, perhaps?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No coffee...alcohol.

 

[user252009]

No coffee...alcohol.

I don't drink, but I guess she does, could try that yeah

 

[Romanemp22]

I used to live in a different part of the city, next door to a hot neighbour. We didn't interact too much then (I lived there for 2 years), but the few times we did, she seemed really nice, and obvs pretty hot. When I moved out, I left a bottle of wine I'd had left and her roommate gave it to her (as she was still sleeping). I knew she was on FB as one situation revealed back then, so I sent her a message in the sense of "hoping the bottle of wine reached you", and she just replied today, as she only saw the message now (we're not connected there yet). I'd smash this girl, so I was wondering how you guys would approach it - suggesting coffee first, after reconnecting, perhaps?

Just play your cards cool and lead the way. She is possibly dtf right now so your chances are high up right now so better act direct as soon as possible. Invited her over for a drink and the rest will follow up

 

[2Rocky]

Invite her to see your new place and drink the bottle of wine...

"Hey Neighbor Girl Firstname, Glad you got the wine. my new place has a great sunset view. If you wanna bring it, I'll fix us dinner on my grill at my new place.

 

[user252009]

Invite her to see your new place and drink the bottle of wine...

"Hey Neighbor Girl Firstname, Glad you got the wine. my new place has a great sunset view. If you wanna bring it, I'll fix us dinner on my grill at my new place.

Nah, that’s WAY too direct, would definitely scare her off and make me a creep. I sent her a message, we’ll see. My new place DOES have a nice sunset view tho.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Nah, that’s WAY too direct, would definitely scare her off and make me a creep. I sent her a message, we’ll see. My new place DOES have a nice sunset view tho.

Oh yeah, because enjoying a sunset instead of having a drink isnt creepy at all.

 

[user252009]

Oh yeah, because enjoying a sunset instead of having a drink isnt creepy at all.

Huh? Meeting outside for a drink or inviting her to my place are two VERY different things

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Huh? Meeting outside for a drink or inviting her to my place are two VERY different things

Women dont care about the sunset, they care about social proofing.

 

[2Rocky]

The worst that could happen is she says "NO" . Best part is you don't have to see her every day and feel awkward if she does.

You are in danger of being friendzoned if you don't act more direct.


It's not like you are some stranger....she knows who you are. Give her a chance to choose you.

 

[user252009]

Women dont care about the sunset, they care about social proofing.

I fail to see how your two replies contribute any substance to this conversation, can you clarify?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I fail to see how your two replies contribute any substance to this conversation, can you clarify?

Sorry, I try to be minimalist in my responses.

Basically, you are going to build more credibility with this woman by going to a social place, rather than an individual place, because we want to create the condition where she wants to be saw with us, to increase her social status and almost let her show you off in a way, as if to say to the other women, hey b1tches this is what i am worth. She will crave this social proofing.

if you are j-j-j-jacked, you could just invite her over, but your relying on the strength of the attraction you have built with her previously and if it was there before, then you hesitated and that will also impact her view of you.

Being Creepy, is when you try to skip social proofing without enough attraction built

 

[user252009]

Thanks. That’s why I said I’d rather meet her outside.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Thanks. That’s why I said I’d rather meet her outside.

The core of what I am saying is that this should of been done before you left the wine, as you have already compromised her look of you by not building attraction or not following up with her in person but rather Facebook.

Facebook is not a place for you to make moves, in person is.. Like messaging on Facebook after you didn't follow up is creepy, anybody here will tell you that.

Anyways, best of luck

 

[2Rocky]

 

[bat soup]

Have you tried moving in right next to her and drilling a hole in the wall? That's what I always do.

 

[user252009]

Have you tried moving in right next to her and drilling a hole in the wall? That's what I always do.

Have you read the post? I lived right next to her, she's an ex neighbour now

 

[bat soup]

Have you read the post? I lived right next to her, she's an ex neighbour now

Why don't you just move so that you live next to her again? Then you could say "what a coincidence" and she wouldn't find it strange at all.

 

[user252009]

Why don't you just move so that you live next to her again? Then you could say "what a coincidence" and she wouldn't find it strange at all.

I'm not gonna feed the trolls here, which you obviously are

 

[bat soup]

I'm not gonna feed the trolls here, which you obviously are

Ouch, that hurt. But seriously, if you do drill a hole and she asks you what it is, tell her it's a "glory hole".