"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Addiction is a nasty place man, but you did good by exposing yourself; that authenticity and the people who associate with you, because of it, will carry you through the hardest moments of sobriety.

Be infallible through your honesty; if you go to AA, they will drive it into you as well.

When I resolved my addiction, I realised i was not addicted to substance, but i was actually addicted to lying and the substance was simply an extension of it.

Yeah, guys will call you out for your honesty, it has to infect every part of your life, but i would say its a better life than being sober before addiction.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Addiction is a nasty place man, but you did good by exposing yourself; that authenticity and the people who associate with you, because of it, will carry you through the hardest moments of sobriety.

Be infallible through your honesty; if you go to AA, they will drive it into you as well.

When I resolved my addiction, I realised i was not addicted to substance, but i was actually addicted to lying and the substance was simply an extension of it.

Yeah, guys will call you out for your honesty, it has to infect every part of your life, but i would say its a better life than being sober before addiction.
But when you're in a downward spiral of drinking, especially if you get to the point of acting foolish, and feeling ashamed of it, it's hard to stop. Op isn't going to listen and just stop unfortunately. He needs something safer and less toxic to his physical and mental health to wean him back to sobriety when I get bad on drinking I won't listen or care about anything. I was a way harder drinker too. I'd drink the equivalent amount of five shots in ten minutes no problem, drink till I pass out. Wake up drink again. It's not good. As bad as op thinks he is, it can get much worse. He needs to either get weed, phenibut, kratom, or gabapentin and use those to get of the booze. Phenibut and kratom will work like a charm the first try, but they will cause physical dependency, but I suppose they're better than drinking tbqhwy.

People who are in their alcoholism, especially if it's too numb themselves from emotional pain, are very hard to convince.
 

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Give us an update OP. Why don't you get another substance to get yourself off the booze? Are you in the US? You can go to the little Arab corner stores /gas stations or head shops and buy some kratom capsules.
 

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But when you're in a downward spiral of drinking, especially if you get to the point of acting foolish, and feeling ashamed of it, it's hard to stop. Op isn't going to listen and just stop unfortunately. He needs something safer and less toxic to his physical and mental health to wean him back to sobriety when I get bad on drinking I won't listen or care about anything. I was a way harder drinker too. I'd drink the equivalent amount of five shots in ten minutes no problem, drink till I pass out. Wake up drink again. It's not good. As bad as op thinks he is, it can get much worse. He needs to either get weed, phenibut, kratom, or gabapentin and use those to get of the booze. Phenibut and kratom will work like a charm the first try, but they will cause physical dependency, but I suppose they're better than drinking tbqhwy.

People who are in their alcoholism, especially if it's too numb themselves from emotional pain, are very hard to convince.
You are right, I thought i read in his post that he was able to get through work w/o drinking, if u can do that without major shakes, ur prob gonna be safe, but yeah you need to do it safely regardless.
 

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You are right, I thought i read in his post that he was able to get through work w/o drinking, if u can do that without major shakes, ur prob gonna be safe, but yeah you need to do it safely regardless.
He did write that. But the thing is that what's helping him get through work is that drink at the end of the day. I used to be just like that, the only thing motivating me was knowing im getting smashed later that night.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I just called it quits, I only drink anymore when out with friends and even then it’s a lot less. I have huge ups and downs, but it’s mainly because of being heartbroken. Waking up in the middle of the night are the hardest moments emotionally, but even though there is liquor in the house, I don’t feel the need anymore. In the end it makes me feel worse overall.

I pull myself up the next day knowing I didn’t drink alone anymore.

And no, I’m not gonna use something else. I realize I have a high propensity for substance abuse because of my mindset. I just need to change that. Huge and long objective, but one day I hope to achieve that.
 

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I just called it quits, I only drink anymore when out with friends and even then it’s a lot less. I have huge ups and downs, but it’s mainly because of being heartbroken. Waking up in the middle of the night are the hardest moments emotionally, but even though there is liquor in the house, I don’t feel the need anymore. In the end it makes me feel worse overall.

I pull myself up the next day knowing I didn’t drink alone anymore.

And no, I’m not gonna use something else. I realize I have a high propensity for substance abuse because of my mindset. I just need to change that. Huge and long objective, but one day I hope to achieve that.
Good job. Just be glad you didn't end up drinking a liter if vodka a day. I've gotten so bad that I couldn't even keep it down, I needed a drink so badly but I couldn't stop throwing up.
 
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