You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My unmodified nature was "laid back", it was attractive to them though, because I had confidence. As an adult I had to become more proactive and more assertive, "laid back" just won't get many things done. I enjoy hustling hard and earning my way forward.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I can hear the divorce lawyers rubbing their hands together from across the Atlantic and Mediterranean.
That's actually the answer to alot of these questions.
It's the same as when u r profiling a bunch of dogs, you'd automatically know which one is the dominant dog and which are the passive dogs.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
All I know is I don't mind the thought of dying alone. I cherish the thought of such a peaceful deathbed.
And you're a passive man too, just like goodstuff but the opposite of his personality.
Spaz you know nothing about me. I'm not passive. I'm a proactive person who goes after what he wants. But i won't chase women because it's pointless.
Being passive is a bad thing?
I would have to back up so far to be passive. It's not happening. Just not there. I don't like to lay back.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Who here doesn't know that u r an intellectual?
And who here doesn't know that u r an expressive man? That you yearn for love? That you have lots of love to give out?
Still here with that expressive man talk, love ya Spaz
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Was I wrong abt you?Still here with that expressive man talk, love ya Spaz
Nah everything was on point with me, so I spent this year correcting my weaknesses - I did well but you can't change who you ultimately are
Agreed. I was just looking into my ancestor Dagobert (I), Merovingian King of Francia:
en.wikipedia.org
So far, I have discovered that I am a descendant of children of Dagobert and both Nanthild & Ragentrude.
I think I have few other half-cousin sanguinations from other king/emperors. I also have some half-cousin sanguinations from gals that remarried after being widowed. And Dagobert had this beauty of a grandmother Fredegund:
Love will put wind in my sails and add to the motion i have. Whereas fighting and having women play games and compete slows me down and puts my focus on things i don't care about at the time.
Yes i think its better for certain things. Not as good for others.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.